Shower invites...
I know that etiquette questions can sometimes draw quite the debate, but I'm hoping that we can avoid that with this one.
My mom is putting together my shower because my BMs are scattered across the state and quite busy. Plus, she loves this sort of thing. She's run into a bit of a roadblock with who to invite. Now, I know that there are many different opinions on who should and shouldn't be invited, but I'd just like to get a general idea of where most people would stand on this issue. There are several people who will be invited to the wedding that live outside of the state. They have already told us that they plan on making the trip to the wedding, but should they be invited to the shower when it's highly unlikely they will make the trip for it? My mom and I both feel the same way...we can see both sides. We don't want these guests to be offended that they wern't invited to the shower, but we also don't want to send out an invitation and have it seem like we're just looking for a gift out of the whole thing. Did anyone have this situation come up? How did you handle it?
My mom is putting together my shower because my BMs are scattered across the state and quite busy. Plus, she loves this sort of thing. She's run into a bit of a roadblock with who to invite. Now, I know that there are many different opinions on who should and shouldn't be invited, but I'd just like to get a general idea of where most people would stand on this issue. There are several people who will be invited to the wedding that live outside of the state. They have already told us that they plan on making the trip to the wedding, but should they be invited to the shower when it's highly unlikely they will make the trip for it? My mom and I both feel the same way...we can see both sides. We don't want these guests to be offended that they wern't invited to the shower, but we also don't want to send out an invitation and have it seem like we're just looking for a gift out of the whole thing. Did anyone have this situation come up? How did you handle it?