Comments | webmistress_liz: can you imagine still loving your boyfriend when they're old, grey, and wrinkled?

webmistress_liz

can you imagine still loving your boyfriend when they're old, grey, and wrinkled?

Apr 26, 2004 19:27

so... this guy i know sent me this FWD message... and in it was this story about someone recalling their youth in the 50's... and it was like a sitcom would be described... and at the end was something about fixing things that are broken rather than throwing them away... one of the examples was marriage... and i can't agree with this... because i ( Read more... )

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tits_n_whiskey April 26 2004, 16:45:02 UTC

amen sista friend.

webmistress_liz April 26 2004, 16:51:39 UTC

i forgot to include my tirade about the idiocy of waiting for sex until marriage... you can't fully know a person until you... fully know them... people can change after sex... at least you won't be damned to either a lifetime of bad sex or a guy who drops the sweetheart routine because he doesn't need to work to keep you anymore...

lifeisacabernet April 27 2004, 06:21:00 UTC

Wise man say:

"You cannot fully know a man until you T0UCH TEH P3N0R."

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webmistress_liz April 28 2004, 15:12:48 UTC

marriage SHOULD be forever... you should wait for the right person, who doesn't beat you, neglect you, cheat on you, blah blah blah... but people are idiots and do stupid things like marry the wrong person... and sometimes they're not even bad people, things just don't work out like you think they will...

i hope you don't think that tirade was aimed at you, because it really wasn't at all... it was totally spawned from the email i got... i don't get any bad vibes from your decision... i say full steam ahead to you...

space_nerd April 26 2004, 20:10:29 UTC

It's easy to say "it's too early","you should wait", "how well can you really know them" when you don't have those feelings. I actually have a good half dozen friends gettings married within a month from today, and so I see how they all feel ( ... )

kyugy April 27 2004, 11:35:53 UTC

I'm going to have to agree with Fran on this one. Marriage is a great instution. Just because some people don't think it out as to what exactly marriage and joing two lives together really means doesn't mean that young people who have thought that far ahead can't get married and have a perfectly wonderful life. The reason the majority of marriages actually fail is the because of the selfishness of one or both of the partners. If two people can be unselfish with one another, then the relationship will last ( ... )

webmistress_liz April 28 2004, 15:35:38 UTC

i 100% think that you should wait if you want to wait, whatever, it's your deal... i just think that its a helluva lotta pressure for an idea designed to keep the births of bastard children down... i think the problems occur when people see sex as love... you have to be mature about it... you have to see sex as a carnal thing and love as an emotional thing and you have to be able to know when they meet in the middle and when they don't... i've had sex with people i didn't love and i've had sex with people i did love... i'm smart enough not to confuse the two... if you can't handle sex vs. love, why are you getting married? you're obviously not mature enough to handle it ( ... )

lifeisacabernet April 29 2004, 12:14:48 UTC

"Marriage is a great institution, but I'm not ready for an institution yet." - Mae West

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lifeisacabernet April 27 2004, 06:41:13 UTC

This is the second post about marriage I have read in as many days. Spring must be here, and with it comes wedding season ( ... )

webmistress_liz April 28 2004, 15:47:04 UTC

i think that being in love transcends the butterflies in the stomach feeling... it's beyond a chemical reaction... it involves respect, trust, and quite simply being each other's best friend... it's not just that tingly feeling all the time... that's just the biological side of it... then again, you and i have very different ideas of love... you're very pragmatic and i'm a bit more spiritual... so alas, we're bound to disagree...

lifeisacabernet April 29 2004, 06:53:05 UTC

It's ok, you still have nice bewbs.

lifeisacabernet May 1 2004, 18:40:37 UTC

The fact that you are comparing real love with a biological process is proof that you have never actually felt its touch. Anyone who has been truly, madly, and deeply in love will tell you that you are wrong. Yes, there is an initial chemical reaction...however, you said the word mind instead of brain. Now if the mind is metaphysical, and the "chemical" is released in the mind, than that must be metaphysical as well.
eric

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