can you imagine still loving your boyfriend when they're old, grey, and wrinkled?
so... this guy i know sent me this FWD message... and in it was this story about someone recalling their youth in the 50's... and it was like a sitcom would be described... and at the end was something about fixing things that are broken rather than throwing them away... one of the examples was marriage... and i can't agree with this... because i listen to the stories of marriages gone wrong in that era, where women stayed and got abused or cheated on or just dealt with a shitty husband, because it looked bad to get divorced... you were married, you were supposed to stay that way... this isn't limited to women, either... men dealt with shitty wives because they couldn't divorce them... people didn't stay married for love when there were problems, they stayed married because they made a promise in the eyes of god and marriage is forever and all that bullshit they obviously shouldn't have said in the first place... now, i'm not saying that the current 50% divorce rate is a good thing... the problem is, just as the problem was then, that people don't think before they do things... then, there were a lot of marriages of high school sweethearts who are delluded in thinking they will be in love forever, or marriages because somebody got knocked up... the same carries today... but in the present it is perfectly socially acceptable to fix it when people fuck up and get hitched... people think that magical time will last... they think that the perfect flawless way they see their boyfriend and girlfriend in the first year or so is the way it will be forever... and i say these people are fools... and they always say "oh i just KNOW we're meant to be together!" but do they really? can they prove that? have they gone through enough trials in their relationship to understand what commitment is like? most often, the answer to that is "no." actually, a definite 50% of the time in addition to the number of people who get engaged and break it off, or the people who say "oh i love you forever" until the 'dating honeymoon' is over and they realize this isn't the person they want... the sad thing is, the 50% of people who stay married are not all happy... the statistic of marraiges that SHOULD last that long is probably even more depressing than the statistic that 50% end in divorce... life is long... you don't need to get married RIGHT NOW... take your time... if it's right, they're not going anywhere... if it's right so you want it right now, you're not ready yet...