I watched an episode of Kashimashi today and was struck again by how much it meant to me. Not just because of the focus on the transgender main character (who is not explicitly called transgender, but absolutely is). I was in this messed up situation with my ex and her boyfriend, and I wanted *so* badly for the love triangle in the show to work out ( Read more... )

It's ironic that I was first introduced to Shawn Colvin's concept album about her divorce, A Few Small Repairs, in my ex's music collection. I do have to credit her for my initial exposure to feminist/lesbian folk rock in general, too.

I love A Few Small Repairs in its entirety. There's some continuing catharsis in listening to it: it makes me feel ( Read more... )

In my last therapy session, I talked about my feelings that I don't seem to get much out of large events like pride parades or naked bike ride, or sci-fi/fantasy conventions, or kink social spaces like the local dungeon. I ran my idea about those events from earlier by them (them=my therapist); that once people have gone to the same event a few ( Read more... )

As much time and thought and anxiety as I've been putting into thoughts of actively seeking potential datemates, my relationship with Erik started when he asked if I'd be interested in dating and I, after processing for a while, said yes. I'm still quite frightened of the idea of being the seeker rather than the sought. Perhaps I will do that some ( Read more... )

I had a date on Saturday...


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I feel uncomfortable with the idea of sex without a certain level of mutual commitment. But that's true for nearly everyone who's interested in sex. Even meeting someone for a hookup on something like Tindr or Grindr isn't without a level of short-term commitment. In my case, I believe that necessary level of commitment to be greater or more ( Read more... )

About five minutes after leaving therapy this afternoon, I realized why I was so scared when, earlier during the day when I got an email from OK Cupid with pictures of "new matches." I hadn't thought about it in so many words, but I don't want to pick someone. I want to put myself out there and have someone pick *me ( Read more... )

I have no good idea about what to do with my personal ad. The Craigslist personals are full of...things that scare me away. I've never used a 'dating app,' but I get the impression that they aren't the sort of place for lengthy writing. Google has not turned up any kind of venue for Chicago queer personals. How does a queer, agender, poly person ( Read more... )

I went to my second therapy session on Wednesday last week; my first since resolving the insurance issues. This therapist is more likely to allow longer periods of silence while I think and/or organize my thoughts. That may be experience on their part, or a style thing. Either way, I feel a little anxious when neither of us are talking, but I think ( Read more... )

I had a really fun time with Lisa in the city this past weekend. We used a few Groupons that each of us had. One was for frozen yogurt from one of those multi-flavor, lots-o-toppings, serve yourself places. I had serious analysis paralysis the first time I went in one, having bits of four or five different yogurt flavors and probably half the ( Read more... )