I cried myself to sleep last night for the first time in a while (I don't think the episode exacerbated the night terrors in any way; they remain reasonably consistent bed-mates more nights than not), and while the trigger is important for later contemplations it's largely irrelevant to this post ( Read more... )

A propos of everything, it’s ironic when I can invest several *hours* in purging the topmost level of thoughts about fear and how it has impacted my behaviours historically in costly manner, then spend an entire evening retreating into exactly those same damned patterns of fearful inhibition. Okay, so everything is tenuous right now and the rules ( Read more... )

"The vulnerability that overt forgiveness requires seems to strengthen to individual psyches of both victim and victimizer. Although there may be several explanations for this phenomenon, one of the reasons is that people find more internal congruence if they deal with the truth. Even if that truth is unpleasant, internal mechanisms to reconcile ( Read more... )