"It takes a lot of work to grow enough to tolerate intense intimacy and eroticism, and accept that life is both hard and sweet."
- David M. Schnarch, Ph.D Constructing the Sexual Crucible p. 173

I had a weird dream this morning before finally getting up and starting the day. It was really short, just kind of a vignette.

I am in the house, but it is not any house I recognize from life. I know it is my home and it feels familiar and "homey" but it is not recognizable as anyplace I've actually lived. It's an older house, maybe Victorian ( Read more... )

"A woman wants a bad guy to be nice just for her. A man wants a nice girl to be bad just for him."
-- anonymous commenter from the internet

I found an interesting quote about marriage today, while surfing around and debating whether or not I should "go talk to somebody." It resonates with what Molyneux has to say about "real-time relationships:"

"The sign of a good marriage is that everything is debatable and challenged; nothing is turned into law or policy. The rules, if any, are ( Read more... )

"Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world ( Read more... )

"It is no mark of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly disturbed society."
- Bodhipaksa Krishnamurti

"What is silent in the father speaks in the son, and often I found in the son the unveiled secret of the father ( Read more... )

So much of my reading lately concerns the deflection of feelings. Why do people do that? The IFS people say that we are wounded or damaged by traumas, growing up. Listening to or reading some of these IFS people, their claim is that most people, world-wide, receive insufficient nurture while they are children, typically, because their caregivers ( Read more... )

"Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself ( Read more... )

It's cool this morning, around 60° F even now, at 11:00 AM. It is still somewhat misty and overcast out the windows here, in Alameda. The sky over San Francisco was a deep purple when I was driving to work. It wasn't raining, nor will it, although a sky such as that but in Ohio would portend rain, almost as a certainty ( Read more... )