Comments | michellecares: A broken Father's love.

michellecares

A broken Father's love.

Aug 02, 2016 12:20

Yesterday, I saw for the very first time my ex-husband put someone ahead of his daughter in the most dramatic way. I will never understand why when men get new girlfriends that the only person feelings that matters is the new girlfriend. Especially, from a relationship that has only been going on for three months and not the whole time during that ( Read more... )

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macaholic August 4 2016, 13:24:59 UTC

Out of curiosity, what were the circumstances?

I ask, because I can understand why an adult male and/or female parent might, in some circumstances, put their personal feelings first. Reasons depend so much on circumstances, the age and dependency status of the child, the decision itself and what and why it was made.

As a now single parent, if I were dating another single parent, I would never want to put myself in a position where a mother might be faced with such a choice with a minor, dependent child. For a mother with an adult child, I can see circumstances where that might happen and I would be disappointed had they chosen to put the child's wishes first. And, I have seen circumstances where a child can put their parent in that position and blindly choosing to side with the child is the wrong decision.

So, I'm curious as to the circumstances of why your ex may have chosen to do so.

michellecares August 6 2016, 02:59:43 UTC

Our daughter is an adult. I have always gone up there in stayed so we both could spend time with her. I live in Florida now and he lives in TN. I had to move to Florida, because when I left I frankly couldn't afford it there. His business was there. It just seemed wrong to kick him out of the house and etc. When his life was more center there than mine ( ... )

michellecares August 6 2016, 02:59:54 UTC

I can't stay up there for long periods of time in a motel, because I can't afford it. We pretty much agreed that I could come up there and stay or whatever until my daughter got her own place. It was kind of an agreement since I was letting him have the house. I could stay even in our camper if need be. Which, I lived in for a little while before I left him ( ... )

macaholic August 6 2016, 03:13:10 UTC

Thanks for the background but, from what said, I don't understand what he did to put this woman before your daughter.

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macaholic August 6 2016, 14:00:45 UTC

(Written before I saw your comment about father-daughter counseling etc. That provides additional clarification but doesn't materially change my opinion ( ... )

michellecares August 7 2016, 04:06:23 UTC

He does not hit. He works in other ways. It's funny you used the title of narcissistic behavior. I just recently gave that title myself to him. He is seeking counseling, because I think he realizes now that he might lose his daughter altogether if all this keeps up. Plus he must play hero and I am sure it's been twisted that it is something he is doing for our daughter. He even tried to act like she was having emotional problems, so it justified his behavior somehow. She was very cool and adult through it all. He was the only drama queen ( ... )