A broken Father's love.

[michellecares]

Yesterday, I saw for the very first time my ex-husband put someone ahead of his daughter in the most dramatic way. I will never understand why when men get new girlfriends that the only person feelings that matters is the new girlfriend. Especially, from a relationship that has only been going on for three months and not the whole time during that

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[macaholic]

Out of curiosity, what were the circumstances?

I ask, because I can understand why an adult male and/or female parent might, in some circumstances, put their personal feelings first. Reasons depend so much on circumstances, the age and dependency status of the child, the decision itself and what and why it was made.

As a now single parent, if I were dating another single parent, I would never want to put myself in a position where a mother might be faced with such a choice with a minor, dependent child. For a mother with an adult child, I can see circumstances where that might happen and I would be disappointed had they chosen to put the child's wishes first. And, I have seen circumstances where a child can put their parent in that position and blindly choosing to side with the child is the wrong decision.

So, I'm curious as to the circumstances of why your ex may have chosen to do so.

[michellecares]

Our daughter is an adult. I have always gone up there in stayed so we both could spend time with her. I live in Florida now and he lives in TN. I had to move to Florida, because when I left I frankly couldn't afford it there. His business was there. It just seemed wrong to kick him out of the house and etc. When his life was more center there than mine

[michellecares]

I can't stay up there for long periods of time in a motel, because I can't afford it. We pretty much agreed that I could come up there and stay or whatever until my daughter got her own place. It was kind of an agreement since I was letting him have the house. I could stay even in our camper if need be. Which, I lived in for a little while before I left him

[macaholic]

Thanks for the background but, from what said, I don't understand what he did to put this woman before your daughter.

[michellecares]

Like I said, when I wrote that journal entry...I thought at first he was trying to prevent me from being able to be with Katie for a lady he just met. He was even saying that was the reason for the sudden changes. Her and her kids. He has never even met her kids and they don't even know he exist. I found out Yesterday... it was all made up. That he was just being a jerk. The lady and her kids had nothing to do with