Thinking of the thousands of smart-but-pretty 90's (80's?) stereotypes I've seen in the media - do you think smart women always feel a need to overcompensate
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There's a lot of questions here that I don't know the answers to, but I think I will try my hand at two of them.
I think misogyny comes from the fact that the things that people love often inspire hate when they can't have them. For example, I used to have a crush on a female friend of mine (what guy hasn't been there, right? ;-). I definitely got signs that she was interested but at the same time scheduling anything with her was really difficult and I got the feeling that she was pretty inconsiderate of my time. I was actually starting to get really pissed off at her, so finally I ended up dating somebody else.
A year passed and I found myself in what seemed like a similar situation with exactly the same friend... only this time, I didn't have any crush on her, having worn out most of my feelings the first time around. She behaved exactly the same way, except that this time, without that same depth of feeling, it didn't bother me at all. My opinion is that you can only really be hurt by things you care about, and therefore the things that inspire the most capacity for love also have the biggest capacity for hate.
Here are two of my supporting premises:
1) How many gay misogynists are there?
2) This works both ways, male AND female. Ever notice how many women do you hear saying "My ex was a total asshole" after the relationship was over, yet they end up getting back together eagerly when they have the chance?
I think misogyny comes from the fact that the things that people love often inspire hate when they can't have them. For example, I used to have a crush on a female friend of mine (what guy hasn't been there, right? ;-). I definitely got signs that she was interested but at the same time scheduling anything with her was really difficult and I got the feeling that she was pretty inconsiderate of my time. I was actually starting to get really pissed off at her, so finally I ended up dating somebody else.
A year passed and I found myself in what seemed like a similar situation with exactly the same friend... only this time, I didn't have any crush on her, having worn out most of my feelings the first time around. She behaved exactly the same way, except that this time, without that same depth of feeling, it didn't bother me at all. My opinion is that you can only really be hurt by things you care about, and therefore the things that inspire the most capacity for love also have the biggest capacity for hate.
Here are two of my supporting premises:
1) How many gay misogynists are there?
2) This works both ways, male AND female. Ever notice how many women do you hear saying "My ex was a total asshole" after the relationship was over, yet they end up getting back together eagerly when they have the chance?
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