I've come a bit un-moored from my identity. This is totally expected. Parenthood is not one of those things that you pick up as a hobby and put down a few months later unchanged except for a new party trick. I didn't think it would be. And yet somehow I expected to retain more of myself than I have. I expected to be, or at least want to be, a "cool ( Read more... )

In thinking about this post, I make heavy reference to a speech given by C.S. Lewis in 1944. If you haven't read it, go read it or at least skim it now. Here.

( On being a wannabe )

Me: Were we going to do a half-hour of religious blogging?
Mom: I kind of lost my inspiration cleaning up cat shit.
Me: God is IN the cat shit, mom!
Mom: Fine. YOU write about God in the cat shit.
Me: Challenge accepted.

( God in the Cat Shit )

I bought this book when I was depressed, looking for a light, straightforward contemp romance novel to cheer me up. I'd just read Shelli Stevens' Negligee Behavior and liked it, and similar people recommended this one. Spoilers follow; I can't make the points I need to without discussing the ending ( Read more... )

My mom pointed out recently that women of her generation are frequently annoyed by applying the word "girl" to women my age (who, at least me and some of my friends, apply it to ourselves). I thought about it for a while because I'm certainly not consciously trying to objectify women or anything with my gender words. I said that having trans ( Read more... )

I was all set to make an apologetic post about being an angry feminist (it came up recently and I feel bad), and talking about wedding rings and My Little Pony and stuff ( Read more... )

Women with high DEX don't undercut stereotypes even if they are butt-kickers ( Read more... )

Sometimes I'm lazy and ask the internet instead of doing my own research.

I've been reading Jennifer Finney Boylan's book She's Not There, and mostly enjoying the story, though I accidentally left it at Misty last night so I guess I'll finish it tomorrow. She's funny and mature and I like those things in a writer. Also, she mentions a thing that ( Read more... )

I listen to music with female vocalists a MUCH higher percentage of the time than BK does. That's not so weird, I suppose. I'm trying to think of any group he likes that's female-fronted. I think his genres have fewer women in them ( Read more... )

Couple nights ago I had a talk about "man" as a gender (as opposed to "boy" or "guy"). A young-adult male of my acquaintance expressed discomfort with using it, more as an age thing (I think) than as a gender thing. I said that part of what it means for me to be a "woman" is the adoption of masculine traits--that "woman" and "man" are more ( Read more... )