Examining...

[fierceawakening]

So someone asked over at Ren's if any kinky people had talked about examining their desires, and Ren recommended reading me.

Not sure exactly why, as all I've been saying lately is that such a thing involves asking the wrong questions, but... just so this person has something to see, here goes nothing.

Comments

[preciouslilme]

If someone was to like spanking I would not put it down to biology but cast it as a learnt behaviour. If it was biology shouldn't the majority of women like it? I find it hard to imagine I am the only one that deviates from your theory.

In case you haven't noticed we've moved on from second wave feminism. Women are raised to believe that they exist to service men. It has nothing to do with speciality and everything to do with patriarchal culture. And last time I checked men are the rapists and women are predominantly the victims. Even when men are raped there rapists are predominantly male.

Two seconds of attempting to please a woman does not constitute equal pleasure. Men go down on women for two seconds and expect their blowjob to go to next Christmas.

Unless you say that you have explicitly talked to them about why they want the things they do and made sure that it is not coming from a place of hatred then I will believe that ultimately you are doing it because you want to get laid, with no interest in the woman's wellbeing at all.

Er, I never wrote that you said BDSM was "intrincically good" either. If you're gonna quote at least quote right.

Sex is intrinsically neither. To say it is intrinsically good is to take away from all the ways it is used as a power trip.

[fierceawakening]

Y'know, could you please stop disparaging BDSM *and* using that icon? It's really bothering me. It's like... BDSM imagery is OK when you use it, but requires examination when everyone else does. It's actually really bothering me.

[preciouslilme]

I'll stop using it given it bothers you but its not BDSM imagery at all. It's berry juice being squeezed.