In a desire to ameliorate negative feelings I sometimes resort to (almost ritualized) comfort-seeking behaviors. Forgetting that it is natural for negative feelings to dissipate on their own in time. I need to both allow myself to feel more and to remember my individual strength ( Read more... )

Before I left for work this morning, I grabbed a book I got at a training about a year ago. It's called Parents, Teens and Boundaries. I remember loving this book when I first got it. Mainly because I could see everyone in my life on the pages. My old co-workers and their over-indulgent style. My mother and her occasional "do as I say, not as I do ( Read more... )

A while back I got into a conversation with Icy Boo about Attachment Theory. Then more recently it came up again in a convo with Mikey Mic. So I felt compelled to make an entry on it ( Read more... )

So I think one of the things I'm most looking forward to in parenthood is teaching my daughter(s) how to spot game. It would be much more fun teaching it to my girls, if they weren't so invested in the assholes giving them the game. So here's a list of some of the game I've seen so far. Please add on, if you can.

"I love you." Pretty ( Read more... )

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I think that people tend to drastically underestimate the honesty and integrity of people in general, including themselves. I think people are naturally "good" and that social circumstances are what prevents the inherent "goodness" from coming through. And my forgetful oblivious ass is full of great examples that reveal this ( Read more... )

I'm becoming more and more aware of how wide the difference is between my self-image and how others view me. I think this is true for a lot of people (at least in America). I know I watch my friends trip over things about themselves that I either 1)didn't notice until they brought it up and/or 2)don't think means that much in regards to their ( Read more... )

I saw this documentary on orthodox gay Jews called "Trembling Before G_d" and it was so... I don't have the words ( Read more... )

Why is it that changing one's opinion is seen as some type of defeat? Like if someone is able to convince you that something you once believed is erroneous, you "lost." How do you "lose" when you accept enlightenment and go from thinking something that's wrong to thinking something that's right? Considering this country's divorce rate, people are ( Read more... )

So I have developed a theory. I call it the AIDS test theory or really Active Ignorance. I'm thinking of making this my psych dissertation (after I've seen if anyone else has studied it [in the way I intend to study it]). I've done the poor woman's copyright and everything. lol ( Read more... )