Damnit...

[digging_a_ditch]

Last weekend at church I saw someone I hadn't seen in quite a long time. It really messed with me. When I saw her it was like a plethora of different emotions came rushing at me like bats out of a cave. I didn't know what to say so I just acted like nothing was wrong. Man she looked great

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Get over it

[fsufighter]

Okay dude, having a crush on someone who isn’t interested in you happens to just about everyone at one point or another. If she tells you she is coming out of a bad relationship that is understandable, but saying that she would only have one year for a relationship before leaving for college is a nice way of letting you down. Face the facts, she doesn’t like you and is not interested in you. However, she is not a mean person and didn’t want to be harsh about saying it. This is the part where you infer the point she is trying to get across and make the situation easier for both of you. You say “I come to find out later on that she's supposedly "forced" into a relationship with this guy.” Who told you that? I know “this guy”, he’s kind of a goofball but a genuinely good person and they are like peas and carrots. They have a normal relationship and if she were to say that she wasn’t interested in him, he would accept that and leave her alone in respect for her happiness and well-being. You need to take a lesson from him because it seems like the aforementioned hypothetical scenario has played out for you, much to your dismay, and yet you still wont accept the obvious. Now you will have to help me out. I can’t remember what it is called when you keep pursuing a girl despite her efforts to avoid you and to let you know she isn’t interested. Oh wait I remember now. Its called STALKING! Do yourself and this poor girl a favor and forget about her. You need to move on and she doesn’t need to be bothered by some creepy guy who wont leave her alone and posts long tortured LJ posts about her. Yes, you’ve sunk to the level of “some creepy guy.” Let this be the closure you need. I personally know and am friends with the girl in question and “this guy”. You need to get over her because at this rate you are “making a huge mistake” and “going and messing things up for myself”. Let this be that closure you need and MOVE ON. It’s uncomfortable for her and I know its not enjoyable for you to want something that you cannot have. Make no mistake, even if she were single, which she is not, she still would not be interested in you. The sooner you realize that, the better off everyone will be.

Re: Get over it

[lizbobiz]

I understand the necessity of Rainey's comment. She needed to clear the air and definitely said some things that Tim needed to hear. It wasn't sugar-coated (which it certainly shouldn't have been), but nothing she said was deliberately hurtful or uncalled for.

This comment, however, is unnecessary. Where Rainey's comment was written with the intention of offering Tim some insight into her view of the situation, the writer of this comment seems only to have the intention of being cruel and hurtful.

Tim is obviously already hurting. He doesn't need a malicious opinion from someone who is clearly outside of the situation.