Rudeness

[deonon]

Any one who knows me knows that I value politeness (in its real sense) as one of the virtues of civilisation. After all, it has been proposed that having to work through the complicated web of social interactions is one of the (species guided) reasons our brains got so big (and not the other way around

Comments

[malinari86]

Quite frankly, for the most part I agree with what you Deon and James are saying. I think that society is getting ruder, a thing that my mother laments on a nearly daily basis. However, you might want to consider the greater problem

[sam_sonite]

I don't think it's fair to say that the wealthy have better manners than other people lower down on the socio-economic scale. Otherwise you wouldn't hear the words 'New Money' used as a derogatory way to describe someone

[heapha]

I have to say as someone who has ADHD I find that comment somewhat rude. Am I going to let it get to me - NAH, what good would that do

[malinari86]

Heaph, the same thing with depression...it is stil not an excuse to be a c*nt. If I am right, Deon is saying that people should be more aware of how their actions make the people around them feel. Which I think is a commendable thought if sometimes a little hard to manage in a larger social context.

[sam_sonite]

My comment was not intended to be offensive

[heapha]

Sorry I am at work so this may seem blunt - please don’t’ take offece I am just rushing

I realized you didn’t mean offence and thus it is why I noted that whilst it was slightly offencive I wasn’t going to take any offence from it into the rest of my life

Yes ADD has existed since the dawn of time - 50 years ago you were sent ot the army at 16 to fix the issue.

The medicating of ADD is closely monitored by the government - they don’t give speed to just anybody.

I agree with you on the “parenting experts” being wankers. Like the fact that smacking your kid can be deemed child abuse.
SOME KIDS NEED A GOOD WACK OCCASIONALLY

[sim_james]

James, I also think that you are wrong about one thing...you think that rich people have less manners?

I’m speaking purely from anecdotal evidence; I don’t imagine that my experiences form some kind of general rule.

James, Deon, Jyan...I gather that you think I am rude. You are indeed welcome to that opinion depending on what you define as rudeness. Your definition is sadly a little too wide that the shotgun effect will not doubt to insult someone...which is in itself rude.

I’m not going to speak for my friends (and really Kane, you know better than to assume that we’d all have the same views!) but my opinion of you personally is rather more complicated than that. You probably shouldn’t worry about what I think of you unless you place a high value on my opinion; I have my biases as does everyone.
   

[malinari86]

James, that is a very fair comment. Whatever your opinion of me is, I don't put that high a value on it. I am comfortable enough in who I am and what I am that it would not bother me. However, If you find my presence distasteful, I would rather know so that I can a) avoid bothering you as I actually think you are a pretty cool guy and would not want to bother you and b) so that I know where I stand with regards to ding things like playing Clix with you at cons, playing in your con games etc.

Just by way of clarification, I was not assuming that you have the same opinions of me...it was more three separate comments, one to each of the people mentioned bundled into one paragraph. With reagrds to Jyan and Dion I honestly do not have any emotional reaction to what they think of me. They don not affect my life in any meaningful way (that being said, that wsa not an attack, there is no intent behind it other than clarification).

[sim_james]

   I don’t think you have anything to worry about. I’m sure you realise that I don’t actively avoid you like I do to some people.   ;)

If you’re concerned then you’d be better off asking me in person or talking to someone who knows me well.
   

[deonon]

Actually, Kane, this post wasn't directed at you. I thought you were amazingly polite over the entire convention, and I was actually using you (odd as it seems) as a model of positive behaviour in my thoughts as opposed to the negative behaviour of others.

My post was based on the experience I had of a very few (ie less than five) people who over the last few con have demonstrated rudeness that seems to run contary to the spirit of conventions.

[malinari86]

Forgive me Dion, I sometimes assume that people consider me rude becuase I can be so dismissive at times. Thanks for the heads up. I do find it easier to be polite when I am less depressed.