Rudeness
Any one who knows me knows that I value politeness (in its real sense) as one of the virtues of civilisation. After all, it has been proposed that having to work through the complicated web of social interactions is one of the (species guided) reasons our brains got so big (and not the other way around
( Read more... )
But I will explain this, regardless of what some doctor says about seratonum levels etc it is still the PARENTS responsibility to make sure that a child grows up to be well adjusted and well mannered. It is NOT a doctors fault that a child is misbehaving if the parents sit idley by and watch the show sprouting untruths like “it isn’t johnnys fault he punched suzie, cause Johnny has ADD”
Regardless of the impairment it is a parents responsibility to raise a child to fit into society. Sometimes it is easier with a completely “normal” child, other times it is harder when you have a child with a disability of any sort, but the ADD kids parents should stop and think how hard it is to raise a child with severe autism or psychophrenia.
My mother raised 4 children 3 of which had cronic ADD, one of which had the violent strand. That didn’t excuse a please or a thank you being missed. I think I have OK manners - at least I know what the correct thing is.
As Deonen said he was upset because this person tried to excuse her rudeness behind a non heterosexual sexuality, trying to excuse it because of ADD is just as stupid.
In the end the only excuse for being rude is because you were rude either by accident or on purpose there has to be consequences for those actions.
Reply
Reply
Look at it this way fifty years ago where there all these parents complaining about their children being unable to sit still and being hyperactive? If there were, don't you think we would have heard of it? That there would still be issues of Good Housekeeping and similar types of magazines collecting dust in libraries with articles about how to address this issue.
I find it highly suspicious that less than a couple of decades after experts 'discovered' something, that almost everyone has it. Drugs such as Ridalin are made by Pharmaceutical companies, the same ones who spend more on marketing than Research and Development. It is in their interests for as many people to think they have ADD as possible. Much of the information that doctors have comes from these same companies.
Do you REALLY think it's possible that every single person being medicated for ADD or ADHD REALLY has it? If you read up on how powerful the Placebo effect is, it would make you doubt even more. Our bodies are amazing at tricking ourselves into feeling and doing better.
I grew up in NYC where Psychology has a much stronger grip over the way people think than in Australia. I know the scenario I presented seemed implausible and rude to you, but it is taken from real-life. I have actually seen parents say that.
My original point wasn't so much about ADD, but this culture of experts on parenting which has developed that encompasses so many areas. The ones who tell you that if you potty train your kid the wrong way they could be traumatised for life. All these experts with their books and the degrees which let them put fancy looking acronyms after their names, has driven a wedge between children and parents.
Is it really worth being insistent on manners, if as a mother you make your children distrust women for life?
Reply
I realized you didn’t mean offence and thus it is why I noted that whilst it was slightly offencive I wasn’t going to take any offence from it into the rest of my life
Yes ADD has existed since the dawn of time - 50 years ago you were sent ot the army at 16 to fix the issue.
The medicating of ADD is closely monitored by the government - they don’t give speed to just anybody.
I agree with you on the “parenting experts” being wankers. Like the fact that smacking your kid can be deemed child abuse.
SOME KIDS NEED A GOOD WACK OCCASIONALLY
Reply
Leave a comment