Am I the only Dad who has lost his baby Girl?
Monday, July 7th
I know that I am not the only father who has lost a child. I am not the only father who loved his Daughter. I know that I am not the only father that feels like his children are the greatest treasures in the world. I know that I am not the only father who mourns his child.
Then how come I feel so alone in this area?
I have read many grief web sites and most are by and for Mommies. I have looked for books. I have gone to compassionate friends. Very few men if any are out there that can, do, or have talked about this. I hope that maybe I just haven’t found them but right now I feel alone in this fight.
I have questions that I would like to ask or share with some other Dad. How do you hold it together? How do you fight off the dark desires? How do you support the wife and the other kids? How do you find peace? How is it that your bond with your child can be so pure, innocent, sweet and honest and loving and make you feel like that tiny little person can be better than your best friend or your spouse. How is it that they can leave a hole so huge in your heart?
I know that men grieve differently then women. I have read many of the web sites. I can see it.
What do men do to get through this? It seems that the common answer is to bury their selves in work. I am a family man and I don’t want to do this.
How do I prevent my family from falling apart? So many families end up in divorce. I don’t want this. It would dishonor everything that I still hold on to, and everything that I ever taught my Daughter. Family comes first.
Well I know that they are other guys out there. I know that you struggle with this. Please feel free to chime in or contact me.
I know that I am not the only father who has lost a child. I am not the only father who loved his Daughter. I know that I am not the only father that feels like his children are the greatest treasures in the world. I know that I am not the only father who mourns his child.
Then how come I feel so alone in this area?
I have read many grief web sites and most are by and for Mommies. I have looked for books. I have gone to compassionate friends. Very few men if any are out there that can, do, or have talked about this. I hope that maybe I just haven’t found them but right now I feel alone in this fight.
I have questions that I would like to ask or share with some other Dad. How do you hold it together? How do you fight off the dark desires? How do you support the wife and the other kids? How do you find peace? How is it that your bond with your child can be so pure, innocent, sweet and honest and loving and make you feel like that tiny little person can be better than your best friend or your spouse. How is it that they can leave a hole so huge in your heart?
I know that men grieve differently then women. I have read many of the web sites. I can see it.
What do men do to get through this? It seems that the common answer is to bury their selves in work. I am a family man and I don’t want to do this.
How do I prevent my family from falling apart? So many families end up in divorce. I don’t want this. It would dishonor everything that I still hold on to, and everything that I ever taught my Daughter. Family comes first.
Well I know that they are other guys out there. I know that you struggle with this. Please feel free to chime in or contact me.