trust: what builds it and what burns it, for me

[belenen]

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How do you define trust in your relationships? Do you believe it is a black and white issue or a grey area one in that you can trust people in different ways?Trust comes in various levels, for me. I start everyone at about 60%:

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[raidingparty]

The "percentage of trust" is reminding me of the foreword of The Autobiography of Malcolm X.

[feladrone]

"- showing that they value me more than themselves

[choco_chippie]

Thank you for posting this. Trust, both what builds it and what lowers it as well as whether it's something that has to be built from scratch or whether someone has a certain level of automatic trust until something happens to lower it, can vary so much from person to person. It's really interesting to hear other people's thoughts on trust.

[kehlen]

I have meant to ask this for a while, and this seems a perfect occasion to do so.

Do you prefer comments that are direct and to the point? (I have noticed I tend to ramble when talking on a subject that's new to me, or uncomfortable.)

Also, I have to ask that you answer me once in a while, because (I know it's mostly illogical) when I comment and people don't say anything back, first I start wondering if I am offending them a little, and then after a while more without answers, I start wondering if I comment too much when they would prefer I did not. (Even though to me, entries where comments are allowed imply that anyone can leave one.)

Okay, this is one of the very ramblings I have just mentioned.

[raidingparty]

Not who you were asking, but I think there's a different valence; rambling in text has slightly more use than rambling in speech, because you can go back and check the footnotes. And if someone's reading it, they can pick and skim if it's too much, whereas it's rude to stop someone speaking.