trust: what builds it and what burns it, for me
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How do you define trust in your relationships? Do you believe it is a black and white issue or a grey area one in that you can trust people in different ways?Trust comes in various levels, for me. I start everyone at about 60%: ( Read more... )
Ahh, this is for me too! I think a certain amount of self-involvedness is healthy and it makes me super uncomfortable when I get a sense that someone values other people more than themselves. I'm terrified of having that much... responsibly for another persons's feelings I guess.
I guess for me it's not quite so much about trust, though. Or maybe it is. I want to be able to trust that I'm not 100% responsible for another person's well being/comfort/whatever.
If you don't mind me asking, is there any particular reason for this, for you personally?
I can't be sure but I've always suspected that for me, it has a lot to do with my mom. She made her whole life revolve around me when I was a child, and I had (still have) a huge amount of shame over some things, because I knew it wasn't just my feeling that were at stake, it was hers too. I felt personally responsible for her happiness and when I did something bad I was making her life's work a waste - because I was her whole life. I was her project. But who knows, maybe I would feel this way even if I never had that experience.
Idk if any of that makes sense, I'm typing this way too late at night, but I've never heard of anybody else who's felt the same as me before. It got me all excited! I'm not the only one, haha! I thought it was just a strange quirk I developed.
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