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Thoughts on Friendship

Mar 10, 2006 20:43

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shyallyn March 11 2006, 23:08:55 UTC

I wanted to give my friend the one thing they thought they didn't have. Total acceptance. To go back if I could, I think I would have told them the things I did not agree with and probably would have lost that friendship much sooner than I did. When I finally did tell them all the things I had never agreed with them about, unfortunately in anger (to which I regret, but I am only human, too), they thought I had never listened to anything they said. Honestly, I listened all too well. I went about telling them the truth in the wrong way and made them close their eyes and ears to what I was saying. If only I had handled it better... well I am filled with my own set of "if only"s. If only... maybe they would have at least seen what I was trying so hard to say instead of shutting out my words. I can't go back. I can only go forward since I refuse to stagnate anymore. I do not love everything in my life, but I am enjoying where it is going at this moment. Being a newly wed, pregnant and a mother to a beautiful 3 year old is such a wonderful ( ... )

Thanks for writing. animar506 March 11 2006, 23:23:17 UTC

I appreciate your honest perspective. We all make mistakes, some more regrettable than others. The good part is that you are realizing your mistakes and taking responsibility for your own actions as much as is possible. Maybe someday our friend will be able to appreciate all we each have learned.

We all have the "if only's"! You aren't alone there! If only... I didn't have to choose between two very special people. If only... I would have known then what was going to happen as an effect of the choice I made. (How would I have ever known what the future was going to hold?)

I certainly can relate.

There will always be another chance to try again to be different, to choose different, to answer different. We won't know if that chance may be with the same person or not.

Re: Thanks for writing. shyallyn March 12 2006, 07:23:52 UTC

YOu know the last thing you asked me in your last email? I am too tired to reply there, so I wanted to say that if you want to discuss in a closed entry what you and I have discussed in emails, is fine with me. Things have been so hectic today, I will try and email you later. :)

Re: Thanks for writing. animar506 March 13 2006, 14:18:23 UTC

Ok, I was going to ask you about that. :) I'll reask that here when I get a few minutes. I have today and tomorrow off work, and was off yesterday. Whoo Hooo! Now to stay off the computer long enought to actually accomplish something. Haha...

seekingtheway March 12 2006, 02:33:37 UTC

Isn't it good to talk more freely? To release yourself from other's choices? I say it like this (tho, it sounds egotistical, I don't mean it that way) "One cannot be the teacher and do the student's homework at the same time." It just came to me one day recently. I tried to help my friend by having them meet a friend of mine, who's been through some similar things. My intention was for them to learn from each other perhaps, have a empathetic ear. I admit it was a bad idea, because my other friend was not yet in a place of clarity and healing. What happened instead was trying to help them into what they perceived as "ganging up" on them. I just couldn't ignore ideas I had for them! Isn't a true friend one who tells you NOT what you want to hear, but what you NEED to hear ( ... )

I'll reply more later... shyallyn March 12 2006, 07:29:31 UTC

but here's another perspective on the AS specialist. I mean this in the most respectful way possible, I hope this comes out right since my brain is so fried. If you don't have AS, going to the specialist would have confirmed you for being normal, not your father. Then your father and sister would leave you alone? Just a thought. I know that sounds like doing someting just to make them happy, but if their continued barrage of AS articles really hurts, perhaps you should go just to get them to leave you alone about it. I'm sure they mean the best in their own little way. Either that or just tell them to stop it. I'll try and reply more later. I have to work 12-8 tomorrow so it may not be for a few days. It was just a thought, perhaps I don't know the whole story?

*hugs*

Re: I'll reply more later... shyallyn March 12 2006, 20:48:42 UTC

no no, tis good. I only got the one article. But, I think they think I am living in denial of what only they think I have ( ... )

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