The other kind of love

[ziptie]

Tonight I spent a little while with my friend Eve. Her boyfriend had surgery a few days ago, to remove cancer from his spleen, pancreas, intestine, colon, lymph nodes, and liver. He's doing ok, but is still mostly sedated for the pain

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*blink*

*hug*

I did volunteer work in an oncology ward a few years ago, and it reduced me to tears on a regular basis. Even seeing someone in that state when you've never met them before is difficult to handle. I imagine the change in someone you know is even harder to deal with.

[fatheadhippo]

Hugs and good thoughts to all of you.

[24hourmama]

I'm glad you went over there. I'm sure, if you knows you, that it was a pretty big deal for you,and I'm sure that made her appreciate the visit all the more.

It's pretty amazing how vulnerable it can make you feel.

XO

[fuzzyredmittens]

I went today.

I wanted to warm him up... I had this urge to throw blankets on him and rub his arms... And I imagined telling him in a month's time how he looked today. He had the same way of sleeping that Scarlet did when she was just a day old...I want to tell him this when the color comes back to his cheeks and the beeping things are not around him, the tubes are all gone...

[ziptie]

I'm glad you were there, and I bet they were glad too.

[rangertarmac]

*hugs*

It's not easy seeing someone you know becoming so physically vulnerable. It was tough watching my father-in-law become more and more physically dependent on help from others. He was always such an independent fellow.

I was living with them at the time, so for me it was watching a slow decline. For you, it must have been quite a shock to see him suddenly so different.

I'm glad you were able to be there for Eve. Even a lama needs her community.