I was thinking about posting this the other day, but I didn't. wickedsin posted an audience participation question about relationships, and it prompted me to do my own
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From a lover? It's hugely important they know how to touch me in a nonsexual way. I'm to the point in my marriage that if he brushes my skin at all, I just assume he wants sex and I cringe. It is horrible.
My move? To show I care about someone, I rub their shoulders.
A lover? I'm gentle and I touch their face. It's amazing how many humans go years without having had their face touched by another.
I am sad for those humans.. I also like face-touching. And hand-touching. I'll take a hand in both of mine and just run my fingers across the palm and fingers.. I give good hand massages, too. :)
I was going to write a real reply, but I just can't. Thinking about this kind of stuff forces me to contemplate the fact that it's all hypothetical because I'm single, and my attempts at dating usually lead to nothing but frustration and disappointment. Thinking about that too much makes me sad, withdrawn, and hostile. This is why I'm on two antidepressants.
I love to have the back of neck rubbed and kissed under my hair. My hair is so long and heavy that it covers the back of my neck all the time unless I put it up (which is rare). To feel that touch on the back of it sends shivers up my spine.
I love having the back of my hand stroked gently.
From friends I love a genuine hug and a kiss on the cheek greeting or parting. I love that feeling of camaraderie.
I miss being able to fall asleep with my head on his chest and my arm wrapped around him. I guess that's sort of both types of contact, isn't it?
But like you, I thrive on touch. I need it. And I go for weeks without touching a single human being. It gets so bad that I actually "accidentally" touch the hand the person giving me change at the Taco Bell drive-thru. Just to have some human contact.
...you mean you want me to just hand you all of my weaknesses? I don't think it's any secret that I like massages in ANY form (back, foot, leg, arm, hand, face, anything). Everything else, erm, there's probably going to be some sexual undertones. But my favorite, FAVORITE shit has to be discovered by those willing to put in the effort. :)
I have about a billion signature gestures. Pretty much if I touch you in any way that isn't a playful punch, I care. I don't go touching folks willy-nilly! (Other than hugging. Hugging is a common friendly thing. But if it's a more-than-a-friend hug, you'd be able to tell!)
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From a lover? It's hugely important they know how to touch me in a nonsexual way. I'm to the point in my marriage that if he brushes my skin at all, I just assume he wants sex and I cringe. It is horrible.
My move? To show I care about someone, I rub their shoulders.
A lover? I'm gentle and I touch their face. It's amazing how many humans go years without having had their face touched by another.
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I love having the back of my hand stroked gently.
From friends I love a genuine hug and a kiss on the cheek greeting or parting. I love that feeling of camaraderie.
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But like you, I thrive on touch. I need it. And I go for weeks without touching a single human being. It gets so bad that I actually "accidentally" touch the hand the person giving me change at the Taco Bell drive-thru. Just to have some human contact.
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I have about a billion signature gestures. Pretty much if I touch you in any way that isn't a playful punch, I care. I don't go touching folks willy-nilly! (Other than hugging. Hugging is a common friendly thing. But if it's a more-than-a-friend hug, you'd be able to tell!)
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