a mate of mine once told me (upon the topic of my ex and i getting married) that i am far too young to settle down and i should spend my youth meeting neww people and enjoying a variety of experiences with a variety of people. i think he is was of shit!
there are boundaries you can set yourself and actually stick to. i used to go out and party with my friends all the time when i was in a 5 year relationship and i would get absolutely blind but i knew what to do and what not to as far as girls were concerned, having said that i'm a guy so i dont have girls throwing themselves at me like most of the pathetic drunken fools who hang out in seedy bars looking to "pick up" do to girls such as yourself who are there because the music is decent and it's full of a different kind of poser which is slightly less annoying than your garden variety with a few exceptions who annoy the fuck out of me.
in short i dont have an answer for you but above is my random thoughts on this entry, enjoy :) *falls over*
Past misdemeanors can build up resentment that doom a relationship to failure down the track.
I don't personally believe in keeping the relationship open while you're deciding. You need to make up your mind whether you're in or out. While you're doing that, you should behave in a way that you won't regret, to keep your options open. You should probably ask yourself whether there was an element of deliberate self sabotage. Given his age, perhaps it is necessary to determine what his expectations are with regards to permanence.
Alcohol elevates testosterone levels in women (to those of teenage boys), making them horny, as well as reducing their inhibitions. In men, testosterone levels fall after about the third drink. "It provokes the desire but it takes away the performance. Therefore much drink may be said to be an equivocator with lechery: it makes him and it mars him; it sets him on and it takes him off." ;-)
silly boys and alcoholher_defeatApril 24 2005, 19:15:42 UTC
Darling angel, sister of mine... I know exactly what you are talking about here, because Im exactly the same, the only difference is... Im "officially" his girlfriend, and Im off galavanting about with someone else everytime my "boyfriend" makes me angry.
... If you're in doubt, don't tell him until you are sure about it. If you begin feeling more and more guilty, then tell him. But if the guilt, and feelings of shittiness, are something you can deal with, then don't tell him.
better yet? dont play the game at all, cos you know, to end the game, somebody has to get hurt (emotionally or physically), and at a young age, it never lasts more than a decade (in this day and age)
so live life to the max, "dont get tied down and signing up to a mobile phone plan" if you know what i mean ;)
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there are boundaries you can set yourself and actually stick to. i used to go out and party with my friends all the time when i was in a 5 year relationship and i would get absolutely blind but i knew what to do and what not to as far as girls were concerned, having said that i'm a guy so i dont have girls throwing themselves at me like most of the pathetic drunken fools who hang out in seedy bars looking to "pick up" do to girls such as yourself who are there because the music is decent and it's full of a different kind of poser which is slightly less annoying than your garden variety with a few exceptions who annoy the fuck out of me.
in short i dont have an answer for you but above is my random thoughts on this entry, enjoy :) *falls over*
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I don't personally believe in keeping the relationship open while you're deciding. You need to make up your mind whether you're in or out. While you're doing that, you should behave in a way that you won't regret, to keep your options open. You should probably ask yourself whether there was an element of deliberate self sabotage. Given his age, perhaps it is necessary to determine what his expectations are with regards to permanence.
Alcohol elevates testosterone levels in women (to those of teenage boys), making them horny, as well as reducing their inhibitions. In men, testosterone levels fall after about the third drink. "It provokes the desire but it takes away the performance. Therefore much drink may be said to be an equivocator with lechery: it makes him and it mars him; it sets him on and it takes him off." ;-)
I think you have courage for telling us this.
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... If you're in doubt, don't tell him until you are sure about it. If you begin feeling more and more guilty, then tell him. But if the guilt, and feelings of shittiness, are something you can deal with, then don't tell him.
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so live life to the max,
"dont get tied down and signing up to a mobile phone plan" if you know what i mean ;)
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