It's been a week since my grandma passed away. I was so special to her that she waited for me, until I got there to say my final goodbyes, and I don't think that it was a coincidence.
That's pretty powerful that she was able to hang on for you. No doubt she'll stay in touch with you, one way or another :)
One idea for the letters is to photocopy them to put in a binder that you can look at all of the time, and stash the originals somewhere safe.
My dad explained to me that the grief process is a lot like the physical healing process, and it happens in threes. With a deep cut -- three days, the scab starts to form; three weeks, it comes off; three months, any scarring starts to fade. It may never go away, but it will get less visible -- just like the emotional pain when you lose someone.
So hang in there and take care of yourself, and do whatever you need to do to keep her memory around :)
I never felt as loved or as special to anyone as I felt when I was around my grandma.
Your dad is right. After 3 days, I didn't cry as much. I cried today, but that's because "Tears in Heaven" was on, and I'm not crying every hour like I was before, it's more like once a day. And I've finally gotten some sleep.
Photocopying the letters is a good idea. I think I'm going to do that. I wouldn't want to lose them.
My mom lost (or someone stole?) her jewelry box last year, and the locket that my father gave me when I was 5 was in it. It was engraved and had a picture of us inside. I'm still pretty upset about that; it was my most cherished possession. I definitely need to keep those letters safe.
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One idea for the letters is to photocopy them to put in a binder that you can look at all of the time, and stash the originals somewhere safe.
My dad explained to me that the grief process is a lot like the physical healing process, and it happens in threes. With a deep cut -- three days, the scab starts to form; three weeks, it comes off; three months, any scarring starts to fade. It may never go away, but it will get less visible -- just like the emotional pain when you lose someone.
So hang in there and take care of yourself, and do whatever you need to do to keep her memory around :)
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Your dad is right. After 3 days, I didn't cry as much. I cried today, but that's because "Tears in Heaven" was on, and I'm not crying every hour like I was before, it's more like once a day. And I've finally gotten some sleep.
Photocopying the letters is a good idea. I think I'm going to do that. I wouldn't want to lose them.
My mom lost (or someone stole?) her jewelry box last year, and the locket that my father gave me when I was 5 was in it. It was engraved and had a picture of us inside. I'm still pretty upset about that; it was my most cherished possession. I definitely need to keep those letters safe.
Thanks for the support! :)
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