Full Stop.

[wolflady26]

So theferrett linked to this comic the other day, and I thought it was really beautiful, because it talks about a post-breakup outcome that doesn't seem to ever really be acknowledged. For those of you who don't want to click through, it starts out: "I know we haven't seen each other, or even really talked, in a long time... but I've been doing a lot of

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[yady]

The last frame is so sad, though, because it illustrates so well what society seems to say one should do with such thoughts and feelings - keep them to yourself, forget about them, and whatever you do, don't tell the person in question...

I can, and have done so, invite 4 or 5 ex partners to our house, along with any current partners they may have, and we will all have a pleasant evening together. This is a rare thing, and something I'm quite proud of. I don't want any of them back, there *were* good reasons why each relationship ended. But I've never really seen why that should stop us from being friends - they all were friends before becoming lovers, why should that be any different after figuring out that being romantically involved didn't work in the long run?

But even with them, I'd not easily admit that I occasionally remember moments I shared with them and that they still make me happy. I wouldn't want to go back to those relationships - but I don't regret a single moment of any of them... But to tell them that...

[wolflady26]

The first part of the comic resonated with me better than the second part. Your point is excellent, though, that too often we have to suppress those feelings, because they just aren't acceptable, or seem weird, or seem like we want something that we shouldn't. It's a shame.