Comments | wolfcaroling: Oy

wolfcaroling

Oy

Jun 25, 2009 08:12

Okay, so videos are uploading, but it's gonna take a while.

Option 1:
Kitchen is bone white walls, with grey tile, and bone white cabinets. rosy taupe walls in hallway/living room. One bedroom has yellow walls, the other two are robin egg blue (might clash with our red satin sheets!). Cheap counters, all new stove and fridge. Laminate upstairs and ( Read more... )

obsession of the month, pissing and moaning

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koyaaniisqatsi June 25 2009, 15:38:23 UTC

*hugs* :c

Can't you wait to see if any better options become available?

wolfcaroling June 25 2009, 22:56:58 UTC

I could... but it's a risk. Our rent goes up August first, and as it is we're paying over 1200 a month. That place would have seemed pretty awesome if I hadn't seen the OTHER place first... *sigh*

anonymous June 25 2009, 15:51:28 UTC

OK. First, big hugs. I know it's hard to be disappointed and that you will probably hate everything you look at right now because you are comparing them all to the One That Got Away. You will find the right house - but don't settle just because you feel like you're on a deadline. You can always get your pre-approval extended but once you buy a place, you're in it, right ( ... )

wolfcaroling June 26 2009, 01:25:06 UTC

I think he's right, too. I've always had a tendency to depression. Even as a 10 year old kid I would have days where I was horribly down and would cry for no reason, and even then I suffered from insomnia. I remember crying at night as a kid, because it was one in the morning and I was so tired, but I just couldn't sleep.

I've never really sought treatment, though, because it's never been bad enough to be alarming. I don't want to hurt myself. I just want to cry a lot of the time... It doesn't seem like the kind of thing worth seeking medical help for. Seems like I more need a good kick in the pants.

anonymous June 26 2009, 01:35:51 UTC

Depression doesn't necessarily equal suicidal. There are lots of people walking around in a fog, feeling - as you said in a recent post - alone and as if no one understands them; unable to have any perspective when life throws them a curveball because everything cuts the legs out from under them; eating & drinking their feelings and lying awake all night because their heads won't stop spinning... these people may not think about harming themselves but they aren't happy, either. And we all have a right to be happy.

I hope you get a decent night's sleep, and that things will look better in the morning.

wolfcaroling June 26 2009, 01:44:35 UTC

Benn said the same thing. Well, not with those words, but you know.

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jeanniecee June 25 2009, 19:20:04 UTC

I agree that I think you should keep looking. Don't let a time-line make you feel forced into getting something you don't love. Buying a house is a huge thing. It's somewhere that hopefully you are going to live for a while and if you're unhappy it's not going to be a good place to come home to. While you could paint and redecorate, things like no yard are difficult when you have a dog.

I hope that your doctor's appointment goes well and I hope that things turn around for you.

orenda June 26 2009, 00:24:42 UTC

What everyone else said.
You say you would have liked the first one if you hadn't seen the one that got away. Maybe after a good night's sleep it will look better, but, if not, don't lock yourself into something that will make you unhappy.
Benn's suggestion sounds like a good one. Diagnosises are so nebulous these days that defining what's wrong and whether or not it's a certain type of depression doesn't seem to matter much. It never hurts to talk to someone.
I hope tomorrow is a better day.

bromache June 26 2009, 02:19:34 UTC

Well, after seeing the videos for option one on FB, I have to say I like it. With a bit of personality added with paint and so on, it could be really great. However, I'm wondering how much of a pain it would be for you to not have a backyard. How high is this on your priority list? I would assume pretty high... In which case, I stand by my original statement before seeing the video: Keep looking if it's not right. Settling will make you unhappy, I think.

As for the possibility of depression -- I agree you should talk to someone and see about getting some help. It can be hard to do, but once you get it out there, you'll be relieved to not have to keep everything inside. Wanting to cry most of the time is not normal, but not uncomman and entirely fixable. *hugs*