how men still aren't in a place where they can provide the kind of supportive, emotionally-fulfilling relationships women need
...there is just so much wrong with that entire phrase. I'd parse it, but looking at it makes me tired. However, your thoughts on the book and its subject were v. interesting.
It's really difficult to parse, especially when, yes, TIRED. And there's an entire book of argument that I'm trying to distill down into a couple paragraphs, but--yeah. It was an interesting read but it made me flail a little at the straw men (pardon the pun?) lying around in almost every chapter.
Yeah, that. The sweeping generalization thing is irksome and strawman-ly (what?). But I'm so with you regarding the weird idea that one person should be ever expected to fulfill all one's needs. That seems like a restrictive paradigm that's rooted in the old jealousy and zero-sum game of love, like you've only got so much and so you can't spread it around without depriving a partner of his or her share, and so you have to put all of your emotional eggs in one basket. I'll quote that great 21st-century philosopher, Craig Ferguson and say "Love all the people."
And I too am tired, so apologies if this comment isn't terribly well articulated. I'll just say. Yeah, what you said.
This modern Western Romantic conception that one person must be your SOUL MATE AND EVERYTHING TO YOU kinda drives me batshit insane. Way to put a lot of pressure on a single relationship there, society. Good job. I'm sure that will end well.
Sending you smooches from Downeast Maine....not much happening here, especially when one considers the hubbub of San Diego. Tenuous wifi connection here at the main house or I'd ponder more.....but I love the piece about community. Sometimes it's hard to settle into a community without nervous moments and times.....but wow is it enriching.
Any relationship, communal or with a single individual, has risks?
Oh, San Diego. I land as a Padres game is going at home, and as I wander around after the game I stumble across a bagpiper and drummer. I think I like this city. :)
Yes, that's it exactly. Not always easy to avoid the expectation that one might not fit in or be rejected. Sometimes being human is such a headdesk experience.
PS. Any time there is a random bagpiper it's a good day... Or possibly one has traveled in time and place unexpectedly. ;P
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...there is just so much wrong with that entire phrase. I'd parse it, but looking at it makes me tired. However, your thoughts on the book and its subject were v. interesting.
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And I too am tired, so apologies if this comment isn't terribly well articulated. I'll just say. Yeah, what you said.
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Oh, San Diego. I land as a Padres game is going at home, and as I wander around after the game I stumble across a bagpiper and drummer. I think I like this city. :)
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PS. Any time there is a random bagpiper it's a good day... Or possibly one has traveled in time and place unexpectedly. ;P
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