Sitting here....

[whiteangel70]

Im sitting here trying to do my keyboarding homework, but cant keep my mind on things. I keep wondering what the eye doctor is going to say about Bobby. Is he going to go blind? Is he going to be ok? *sigh* I didnt sleep last night. With all I am having to deal with by myself, I cant wait until my sister gets here next month

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[lulu_plum]

Holy shit. I wonder if maybe he was hoping she would outlive him...so that she could be there with him his whole life. :-( I wish she was still here, too. Lordy.

I didn't know that Emmett was younger than mama. Not that I am surprised, because I got the feeling (what little I know about him) that he had some maturity issues.

Onward...I found this and thought you might like it:

http://www.quotegarden.com/relationships.html

[whiteangel70]

I like the site...thanks *hugs*

[lulu_plum]

You're welcome...:-)

[whiteangel70]

:)

[phoenix_echelon]

I think it would be to your benefit to tell the doctor about his concerns. I would hope that they would recommend that you see a counselor, like the hospitals LCSW. I feel confident enough to tell you that you need to start addressing his concerns about dying alone. Affirm him that y?all aren?t going to abandon him. I would also suggest that you try and get him to talk about his death as far as things y?all might need to know like where his will-in-testament is hidden, or what he might like in the way of a funeral. If he hasn?t already he most like will begin to go through anticipatory grief. It usually starts off with denial, and then anger, followed by bargaining, and usually ends with acceptance. There is a fourth but for the life of me I can?t remember it. These are fazes and not stages so they don?t occur in any particular order. When he does through these stages the best thing that you can do is to simply be with them. If he talks about just listen, and if he doesn?t just be there with him. That will go along way in

[whiteangel70]

Thanks, Preston, but I dont think my Dad even thinks hes dying. He says things like "Am I ever going to get better?" And he still is planning for the future, like wanting to have a smaller place so he wont have so much to do. He says things like "If I could just get over this Ill be alright" And like "I dont think these doctors know what theyre doing" He has an appointment next Wed, so we will find out for sure what the doctor thinks. Given the fact that he doesnt want chemo, I dont really know how much time he has left. *sigh* Thanks for caring, Preston. It really helps a lot. *hugs*

[phoenix_echelon]

I was afraid of that he might be in denial. Denial is a phase, which you just can’t really help them through. The doctor could come right out and tell him he is going to die and still not except it. I would still talk to him about death, not his death specifically. Like play a song that you want played at your funeral in front of your dad, and say, “You know I think I want this played at my funeral. Have you ever thought about what you would like playing at your funeral?” You’ll have to treat death like Marry Poppins(sp) treats medicine, with a spoon full of sugar.

I’m glad I’m being helpful is some way: )

[whiteangel70]

You are thanks.