Another thing I've heard of being done is for the bride to present her bouquet to anyone she wants to honor - and that tradition doesn't seem to have anything to do with being single or not.
Why not just say a few words about how helpful and supportive your mom has been throughout your wedding planning (and of course throughout your life) and that you want to honor her love and commitment by presenting her with your bouqet. No mention of it bringing her love or luck, or her being single needs to happen - just an honoring thing.
If you haven't decided to give it to your mom (though I think its a really great idea) then you could have one of those dances where couples dance and whoever is in charge of music says "those who've been married for less than 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, etc. please stop dancing now" and you present the bouquet to the longest married couple to honor marriage. Just another option, but I think giving it to your mom sounds nicer :)
I don't think the bouquet giving needs to be about being single. I'm going to do what my two best friends from college did, which was give the bouquet to the longest married couple. Then we'll get a picture with them and us and the bouquet. So I like the mother daughter dance idea, and also thesqueak's idea.
the girls in long-term relationships might feel awkward,
I don't know why though. The idea behind the toss is whoever catches it is next in line to get married; she doesn't have to be single, just not yet married.
At the last wedding I was at, I was up for catching the bouquet (and did), and I was engaged at the time. I also managed to thoroughly embarass my fiance too :) (another story for another post at another time).
But anyhow, since you've decided to give the bouquet to your mom, do the Mother/Daughter dance, or do what another couple did at their wedding and announce that you're not doing a bouquet toss, but instead you're going to present the bouquet to your mom.
Yeah, my neighbor (one of the girls attending) said she wants to get married, but her boyfriend (also attending, and she lives with him) doesn't want to yet. So, that'd make them feel weird, even though catching the bouquet doesn't mean you really DO have to be the next to get married. :P
Hmmm, lets see...I was with James for 5 years when I was at a few of my friends weddings...and well, everyone WANTED me to catch it...and I did, sort of , twice. I didnt feel uncomfortable...
One of my best friends presented her bouquet to her mother, who is unmarried & likely to remain so (She's a lesbian.) She just took the mic from the DJ & said (I'm paraphrasing here.), "Rather than throw the bouquet, I want to present it to my mother, who has been amazing & strong for me at all times, especially during the planning of this wedding. The flowers in the bouquet symbolize joy, peace, and love - all of which I've experienced throughout this process. Rather than throw them to anyone who could catch them, I want my mom to have them - so they might be symbols of joy, peace, and love for her also."
My mom's likely going to stay single too - at least for a while, for now she doesn't want to have anything to do with unmarried men (she said he'd have to be reeeeeeeally rich for her to consider, and that was a joke) :P
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Why not just say a few words about how helpful and supportive your mom has been throughout your wedding planning (and of course throughout your life) and that you want to honor her love and commitment by presenting her with your bouqet. No mention of it bringing her love or luck, or her being single needs to happen - just an honoring thing.
If you haven't decided to give it to your mom (though I think its a really great idea) then you could have one of those dances where couples dance and whoever is in charge of music says "those who've been married for less than 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, etc. please stop dancing now" and you present the bouquet to the longest married couple to honor marriage. Just another option, but I think giving it to your mom sounds nicer :)
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I don't know why though. The idea behind the toss is whoever catches it is next in line to get married; she doesn't have to be single, just not yet married.
At the last wedding I was at, I was up for catching the bouquet (and did), and I was engaged at the time. I also managed to thoroughly embarass my fiance too :) (another story for another post at another time).
But anyhow, since you've decided to give the bouquet to your mom, do the Mother/Daughter dance, or do what another couple did at their wedding and announce that you're not doing a bouquet toss, but instead you're going to present the bouquet to your mom.
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My mom's likely going to stay single too - at least for a while, for now she doesn't want to have anything to do with unmarried men (she said he'd have to be reeeeeeeally rich for her to consider, and that was a joke) :P
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