I wouldn't. I would contact her and say that you've decided to have a smaller wedding party. I would apologize, and say something like, 'at least this way you don't have to worry about bridesmaids duties from two thousand miles away!'
Are you still going to invite her to the wedding? If so, you could assure her that even if you downsize your wedding party, she'll still be very involved, invited to the shower, etc. etc. etc.
if she's moved away are you sure she will still even be able to make it? she might be worrying about it too but waiting for you to approach it as it's your day so maybe just discuss it and mention you understand she probably can't take that big a part anymore - if you two aren't close anymore she will probably at that point willingly agree and step down
I asked 4 of my closest friends at just over a year and a half out from our wedding, and by a year out, I had grown so far from one of the girls (who happened to also be my roommate at the time). So after hemming and hawwing it over for months, I asked her to step down. It sucked. That conversation is not comfortable. But having gone through the wedding day now and only having those 3 girls next to me when I got married, it was so right. Prepare to probably not have that much of a friendship if/when you do ask her to step down. Some people just grow apart, it happens. Most times it happens and it's not a big issue, but when you're asking a former close friend to no longer be in your wedding party, it's essentially like a slap in the face saying, "WE AREN'T FRIENDS ANYMORE". that said, if you're feeling it strongly enough to post about it, then you have your answer. :)
A similar thing happened to me only I was the moh for a girl I was best friend with for years. When she got engaged we still talked, but now that its been a few years, we barely talk. I told her that at this point she shouldn't feel obligated to have me as her moh. If you an k never talk then she probably wouldn't notice if you got married without her there. If she would notice tell her you don't want to burden her with flying in and buying a dress when you guys have drifted apart. I doubt she will be offended.
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Are you still going to invite her to the wedding? If so, you could assure her that even if you downsize your wedding party, she'll still be very involved, invited to the shower, etc. etc. etc.
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Prepare to probably not have that much of a friendship if/when you do ask her to step down. Some people just grow apart, it happens. Most times it happens and it's not a big issue, but when you're asking a former close friend to no longer be in your wedding party, it's essentially like a slap in the face saying, "WE AREN'T FRIENDS ANYMORE". that said, if you're feeling it strongly enough to post about it, then you have your answer. :)
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