Does bride or groom go first with vows? And what did you say when you exchanged rings?

[cookielaura]

Hi :) Just over 2 weeks to go and I am freaking out! Anyway, 3 questions for you today:

1. Who normally says their vows first, the bride or the groom?

2. Is this a good order: 
                      - Stating that yes, we are free to marry each other
                      - Repeating 'I (name) take you (name) to be my wedded husband/wife' (OK legal bit

Comments

[herladyship]

In our ceremony, he spoke his vows first, but I'm not sure if that's something that's always done or what.

[amymeenieminymo]

Same here.

[katinator44]

I don't know much about this but I'd say either:

A. Do what feels right with you two...you can't screw up the order, really...just because it didn't go the way it traditionally does doesn't make your marriage null lol so just do whatever feels right for you

B. Talk to your officiant about it, maybe they have some suggestions?

[cmonbella]

In order to still have a little bit of fun with things we decided to rock paper scissors for who had to speak first. Good luck :)

[kerrypolka]

I spoke my vows first, but he spoke the ring part first, so it was even. :)

We said, "[Name], I offer you this ring as a sign of my enduring love and commitment" with the rings.