Converse Weddings and Bridal Party Gifts

[uglybracelets]

1. I chose Converse's for my wedding shoes. I needed something flat, and I couldn't find any cute flats. I picked Converse's because I have always liked them, and I could customize them. My sister saw them and liked them and said I should have FH, the best man, and groomsman wear them too. With their tuxes or suits (we haven't gotten that far

Comments

[lebeautemps]

Concerning gifts for parents: I know it's hard, you have my sympathy. I have similar issues with a rude parent. My view was that they get an invite for the sake of drama avoidance, but that is where the line is drawn.

I feel that to treat them like any other parent would mean that their hurtful comments were ok and there was no onus to stop. I wouldn't handle persistently offensive children like that, so why should adults be any different?
For her to expect a gift would be hypocritical, considering her position concerning you and FH. If she's angry at being left out of the gift-giving and raises it with FH dad, let her. It's about time he accepts that she has been unpleasant, which is unacceptable. It is also very stressful for you and FH.

An invitation to your wedding is an honour, not an entitlement. :)

[hey_ungrateful]

1. I love chucks and are wearing my normal ones for the reception. I wanted FH and the groomsmen to wear them but its not their normal style so I decided not to push my style on them. I was going to have them wear black ones with black toe things like this:http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/317YFRA9V2L.jpg

3.Could you just do dual gifts for all sets of parents? We aren't doing gifts day of for our parents but we are having parents photo books made. We will probably write a letter and give it to them with the roses during the ceremony.

[sillyd]

my husband and the groomsmen wore chucks

[rainy_desert]

At my brother's wedding, a general memo was sent out to the guys that they could wear Chucks of their choice. The bride also had a pair to change into after the ceremony. All of the gals just had black dress shoes of their choice. They wound up with a pretty eclectic mix of styles, but it still looked really nice:

[chapstickqueen]

Honestly, nobody is going to pay attention to anyone's shoes. Maybe they'll be photographed special by your photographer if you want, but nobody is really going to be seeing them or looking for them. They're shoes! Wayyyy below your smiling faces!

My opinion is that you give gifts to parents who help with the wedding, whether financially, with emotional support, etc. If you're not even speaking to someone, they come like any other guest and that's that. Just my 2 cents.