1. What kind of JP wedding? Are you going to the courthouse and then having the party weeks or months later? Then yes. Why not have a more traditional wedding by having the JP come to you at a park or a family member's backyard and then have the reception right afterward? Or, you could get married and have a "celebration of your marriage" weeks or months later. To me that makes it seem like less of a demand for gifts than calling it a reception.
2. Yes, but it's usually done when one side is located in a different state. If nobody is volunteering to pay for the 2nd reception then I wouldn't do it.
3. Baby showers are usually hosted by someone other than the parents-to-be. What about throwing your own reception (or "celebration of your marriage") and maybe a close friend would host a shower for you?
It will more than likely be at a courthouse, because I think it's easier that way. And I'm not exactly when the reception would be, just that it wouldn't be on the same day.
I really see no justification in my situation for 2 receptions. My mother will jsut have to get over it. haha.
And I'm sure someone would host the baby shower? Lol, there's really no talk abou it yet...I'm only 2 months along.
Wow you encapsulated everything I was going to say into a much shorter comment, including the part about having a more traditional ceremony if she wanted.
1. Absolutely not. I think it is completely fine. A friend of mine just eloped but she's still having a reception in a few months. It's not a demand for gifts - it's a celebration!
2. Yes - but usually when people are far away from one another. I'd just do one reception and people can just deal with each other.
3. People don't usually throw their own showers. It's more traditional for others to throw them for you. If you host a reception, just register for whatever is going to be useful for your family. If you don't need dishes but you do need a car seat, register for the car seat.
I'll probably register for whatever I need, I jsut remember my grandmother telling me it was "distasteful". I come from an odd family, I'm finding out.
That site will come in handy. All of my family thinks it's best for a JP, cause I never really wanted a "big, white, traditional, dressy wedding" I always wanted something small. I think my biggest problem right now is the reception. I just have no idea what I would possibly want to do. (Hence, thinking I could maybe do the baby shower instead)
We are doing a courthouse wedding and then having a reception/dinner afterward, but not a big blown out reception. Basically just immediate family and my Aunts that I want there and that will already be 35 people.
Re: tacky post JP reception?cuelightJanuary 12 2010, 19:30:18 UTC
This. This industry tells us what's tacky and what's not but in reality? It's not tacky at all - it's what you want to do. We're getting married at a registry office with only immediate family and then having a reception with friends and extended families later in the day - do what works best for you.
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2. Yes, but it's usually done when one side is located in a different state. If nobody is volunteering to pay for the 2nd reception then I wouldn't do it.
3. Baby showers are usually hosted by someone other than the parents-to-be. What about throwing your own reception (or "celebration of your marriage") and maybe a close friend would host a shower for you?
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I really see no justification in my situation for 2 receptions. My mother will jsut have to get over it. haha.
And I'm sure someone would host the baby shower? Lol, there's really no talk abou it yet...I'm only 2 months along.
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2. Yes - but usually when people are far away from one another. I'd just do one reception and people can just deal with each other.
3. People don't usually throw their own showers. It's more traditional for others to throw them for you. If you host a reception, just register for whatever is going to be useful for your family. If you don't need dishes but you do need a car seat, register for the car seat.
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That site will come in handy. All of my family thinks it's best for a JP, cause I never really wanted a "big, white, traditional, dressy wedding" I always wanted something small. I think my biggest problem right now is the reception. I just have no idea what I would possibly want to do. (Hence, thinking I could maybe do the baby shower instead)
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in short: NO.
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