Not mine!! My FH and I attended a friend's wedding & reception this weekend, and I noted a few things for future reference, as it were
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3) you know...i know its completely bad to do that, but most of the weddings i've been to have a large time gap. of course they were all traditional vietnamese weddings with the tea drinking ceremony before noon and then a dinner reception...
i think it makes a difference that the ceremony is only attended by family. reception is for everyone
im from an area where there is a minimum 4 hour break between the ceremony and reception is completely normal and acceptable. Im starting to see that in some cases its a cultural/regional thing.
But i am so sick of people saying its tacky and rude just cause its not normal to them.
Im gladly having a 4 hour break, i want nice pics. Out of town guests are already going to be staying with us so they will go back to our place for snacks while the remaining guests go home and take a break between the two events and we go and get pictures taken.
And if your guests are prepared for it, well and good.
For us, it was like... wait, so we get all dressed up, go to the church for half an hour, and then have to kill 5 hours somehow before getting all dressed up and formal again? It felt like a major imposition on the guests.
i think it really is a cultural/regional thing. because no one i know has ever batted an eye at a long break between. its just kinda accepted that weddings are an all day affair where you're up at 6 and you can take a nap in the afternoon before dinner. which is what we usually do. unless the bride/groom (who is usually family) has conscripted you into doing something like helping set up the reception...
at the same time, i can see it from the other point of view. if you aren't used to the situation, it can be viewed as kinda rude since the person invited is expected to "waste" the day waiting for the reception.
1b. That can also just be the fault of a bad DJ. Was anyone requesting songs? If not, he's just playing stuff he thinks people want to hear, which may not be the case. He should have realized no one was dancing and changed the music, but if no one was asking for anything else either...
A few people did (that's where the country came in, as near as I can determine). Mostly though, people just played with the photobooth, stayed at their tables or left early.
A lot of the weddings I've been to this year have had a ton of women wearing black. Honestly, I hate it. I've been trying to to think of a good way to say "This isn't a funeral, no black dresses." I don't mind if it's a mainly black dress, but for some reason all black ones annoy the hell out of me.
Why? Black is very common for elegant and semi-formal occasions, and it's the easiest dress to find, I think. It also seems to look good on most body types.
You didn't say if you were actually going to try to tell your guests what to wear, but honestly, as a guest, I'd be a bit annoyed if you tried to dictate my attire further than "semi-formal" or "black tie". I don't know that there is a good way to make it work, but if you choose to go that way, good luck.
There probably isn't, except that white and black are supposed to be taboo at weddings (or so the posts a few days ago said). Black's clearly making a comeback, and I'm thrilled - for exactly the reasons you mention!
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Rude & Tacky.
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i think it makes a difference that the ceremony is only attended by family. reception is for everyone
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But i am so sick of people saying its tacky and rude just cause its not normal to them.
Im gladly having a 4 hour break, i want nice pics. Out of town guests are already going to be staying with us so they will go back to our place for snacks while the remaining guests go home and take a break between the two events and we go and get pictures taken.
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For us, it was like... wait, so we get all dressed up, go to the church for half an hour, and then have to kill 5 hours somehow before getting all dressed up and formal again? It felt like a major imposition on the guests.
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at the same time, i can see it from the other point of view. if you aren't used to the situation, it can be viewed as kinda rude since the person invited is expected to "waste" the day waiting for the reception.
but again, its a cultural thing i think...
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You didn't say if you were actually going to try to tell your guests what to wear, but honestly, as a guest, I'd be a bit annoyed if you tried to dictate my attire further than "semi-formal" or "black tie". I don't know that there is a good way to make it work, but if you choose to go that way, good luck.
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