Ugh I know I can't be alone!

[sleepygrl79]

I was just wondering if anyone else is playing the traditional/nontraditional wedding game? I'm trying to be who I am along with making everyone happy. I am really trying to incorporate the cultural and unique aspects that are us along with the typical American traditions. Overall, I'm ok with this I just don't get the unneeded comments

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[sakkebomb]

My advice to you is do what makes both of you happy. Not your Aunt, not your future MIL. We were originally going to have our wedding day after Thanksgiving. No one was happy with that. Then we decided we wanted it where we live, not our home town. No one was happy with that. Then we decided to have it in our home town but FH's family lived in a city about three hours away and none of them wanted to drive down. It was a fiasco. In the end, we decided to do what we really wanted and are getting married on a cruise in the Cayman Islands. It's you and your FH's day. No one elses!!!

PS - I like the trail mix idea. It's unique and has special meaning :)

[sleepygrl79]

Thanks for the advise hun! You are totally right! And ya know the little details people fight me on bring out my deviant disorder *eg*

[goingtoguam]

I don't know why any one would mine your having trail mix at the bar. Sounds like a fun idea to me. Now I'm wondering what I could put there.

Good luck with the fam. Maybe they didn't mean it to come out the way you took it. Lack of tone in emails is frustrating.

[sleepygrl79]

Thanks! I'm trying to look at it in a positive light.

[romperwebby]

i think the trail mix is adorable - and even cuter if you packaged it as wedding favors! maybe you can jazz it up a bit so it's more 'gourmet'? you should continue the outdoorsy theme where you can so people get the message.

your FH cousin must not know you very well.

[sleepygrl79]

ohh I think you are on to something! Thanks. And you are right FH cousin really doesn't know us. None of his family REALLY knows us...

[redheadgirl783]

we are having that issue. just so you know, i would totally dig the trail mix. and you are right if this is all they are having issues with then there is not real issue

[sleepygrl79]

I think I'm going to take your advise and sick FH on her FMIL if things continue. For now I'll keep my mouth shut *lol* But good call on the bringing up the veggie tray if they keep up the crap.

My family expects odd to some extent from me..but his family is very traditional so they fight us on everything..

[redheadgirl783]

that is our exact problem! it took about one moth of proactive work- agreeing to some, but standing our ground more often to make this work.

it also helped to completely hand over a project for her. she got the rehearsal, we got the wedding! :)

good luck

[elktastic]

you'll really get tired of hearing it (cuz i know i get tired of hearing it) but you just have to let it go. like water off a duck's back. our wedding is beatles-themed. we hear complaints. we're getting married catholic, my family's protestant. we hear complaints. candy bar, DIY invites, no beef option (seriously, our options were chicken, pork, or vegetarian and we still got complaints that there's no prime rib or filet minion). it's a publix cake, the ceremony/reception aren't formal enough, grandmothers are supposed to walk down the aisle... the list goes on. people are going to complain no matter what. do what makes you happy. seriously. cuz 20 years from now, you have to look back at your wedding photos and be happy with the decisions you made. and if you took out the trail mix, they'd complain about it being outside or that your cake topper looks silly or whatever. the only opinion you have to consider is your's and your FH's

[elktastic]

oh, and i release stress by playing super smash brothers on my nintendo. i name the bad character after my stress (ex: mom=bowser) and i play the sweet caring character (like kirby). works everytime

[sleepygrl79]

in my mind when people complain it's like do you know how much FREAKING money we are spending on this thing..Shut up and enjoy it *lol* but you are right water off a duck's back...

For the record I'd totally dig a Beatles wedding :)