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walkertxkitty

Brigit's Flame Week 1 - Starting Over

Jan 09, 2010 11:49

o/` "I would like to visit you for a while
Get away and out of this city
Maybe I shouldn't have called but someone had to be the first to break
We can go sit on your back porch
Relax
Talk about anything
It don't matter" o/`

-- "I Don't Know You Anymore" performed by Savage Garden ( Read more... )

brigit's flame, my beloved dee, polyamory, relationships

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lupagreenwolf January 9 2010, 19:56:50 UTC

Honestly, one of my favorite things about a new relationship is that process of getting to know each other. Sure, there are the occasional unpleasant surprises (snoring, likes AC/DC at loud volumes, etc.) And, as you mentioned, the assumptions that sometimes happen. But the rest of it's fun :)

walkertxkitty January 10 2010, 19:53:53 UTC

It's been heartbreaking at times as we trip over one another's scars and baggage but there's healing in it too. I think this is going to end up being a beautifully crafted thing. I wouldn't trade him for the world!

more_dragoncelt January 10 2010, 01:53:29 UTC

I like this peek into the beginning of a new relationship. It does a good job of sketching out the awkwardness of getting to know a person. Thank you for sharing.

walkertxkitty January 10 2010, 19:52:48 UTC

You're welcome, thank you for taking the time to read it.

This relationship is so different from anything I've ever known, that the rules just don't apply. I guess we'll figure things out as we go.

ladypoetess January 10 2010, 06:46:20 UTC

Oh, this is so very true. Not even just romantic relationships but friendships as well - you feel that level of connection to someone, and if you aren't careful, you might equate that with the same level of familiarity. And very little good can come of that, I'm afraid. I try to keep this lesson in mind at all times, and it serves me well. ^_^

This was excellently written, bravo.

walkertxkitty January 10 2010, 19:48:07 UTC

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Dee and I are still learning to communicate directly to one another. We met through a mutual friend and that friend had told him a lot about me. I naturally assumed since the friend knew me so well that Dee would know the how and why of my quirks.

It doesn't help that we really do feel like we've known one another forever, but we're working through it.

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walkertxkitty January 11 2010, 15:35:54 UTC

Thank you for taking the time to read it. I think I can safely say at this point that Dee and I will probably be together a while. He's been a fast learner and marvelously patient with me.

cogni January 11 2010, 09:56:10 UTC

It is so easy to assume that someone will just know you right off of the bat.

There are a lot of compromises going into any new relationship, and obviously a lot of headbutting to get there.

Thank you for sharing a wonderful process of human emotion.

Assuming someone will know you "makes an ass out of u and me."

walkertxkitty January 11 2010, 15:37:30 UTC

Dee and I have made asses of ourselves several times...and will probably do so again. It's part of the learning curve but one I wouldn't trade for the world. Every time we talk afterward I learn something new about him or he learns something new about me.

Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. It's appreciated.