You are old, said the youth, as I mentioned before.

[w_a_i_d]

Well, it's over, he died at 7.30 this morning. My maths was out before -- it was four years, and four days, after the death of my grandmother.

I was there most of yesterday. Bits of it were horrendous. When we drove home for some food before coming back, Mum said "I've been told your mind starts airbrushing thngs out almost immediately." And I said

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[bugeyedmonster]

Sorry for your loss.

[w_a_i_d]

Thank you.

[wraithwitch]

I'm startlingly bad at condolences. I sincerely wish to offer them, but I tie myself in knots trying not to sound matter-of-fact or like a very bad sympathy card. Meanwhile my neurons aren't helping in the least by tugging at my brain like a troupe of 3y olds saying, 'Jabberwocky! We know that! That's cool! Tell her!' As if actually that would be a valid response.

I hope you're coping.
Be well.
Stay sane (ish).

[w_a_i_d]

Honestly, "be well and stay sane" is just fine. Thank you. And you as well. And yes, Jabberwocky was cool, and I'm so glad I had it there.

[sabrinaphynn]

Would it make you feel better about giving him wine if I told you I gave my mom chocolate milk the night before she died? And, as an RN, I totally knew it could lead to aspiration? But she wanted it and I was not denying her that.
My father in law was like your grandad, he lasted longer than anyone expected.

Heh. The Great Research Institute of the Great Beyond. It fits. My mom would be in the Great Archives somewhere catalouging historical events, or arranging a trip with her co-worker Sarah to Somwhere fabulous. She loved that part of her career.

Glad that the ordeal is over and you don't have to go back. I hope they figure out what the heck is going on with your joints as well.

Have a peaceful Christmas!

[w_a_i_d]

Thank you for telling me that. And yes, while I didn't feel all that great about the wine in the moments when he was struggling for breath, in a macro sense I absolutely felt, and feel, it was the right thing to do. It would have been far worse to remember denying him what few pleasures and comforts we could have given him.

We did have a surprisingly good Christmas, all considered. I hope you did too.

[sabrinaphynn]

It was a typical family Christmas, overall. We are the hosts for my Dad's family, and we carried on as usual. Too many sweets, too much food, fun and good feelings for the most part. We missed Mom terribly, but had a fun time anyway. Had a few teary-eyed moments but most histrionics were reserved for the living. (see my related Boxing day post.)

[vasiliki]

My condolences. *hugs tightly*

[w_a_i_d]

Thank you.

[skull_bearer]

*hugs*

[w_a_i_d]

Thank you.