Honestly...there comes a point when you have to put yourself first, regardless of what she wants or even needs. She's expecting you to put your life on hold for her but then won't do a single thing to make your life or looking after her easier. The only word I can think of to describe her from what you are saying is selfish...the bad kind of selfish. Even with her problems, the fact that she can find ways to undermine you means that her problems are neither completely the reason for her behaviour, nor are they an excuse.
Are there any programs out there available to help out with her needs, to give you a break? Though regardless, I think I'd be making it clear to her family that they need to be taking their share of this burden.
Simply put...you can't keep on like this...stressed, tired, angry. It's not a good thing for anyone to not be able to find even a small amount of happiness in their life. It's unhealthy.
I know I should put myself first...but honestly, at this point, it'd be like kicking a puppy with her mental state. And her narcissism makes her here what SHE says but nothing what -I- say. There are so many times I don't post on here. I can't. It'd be one big ode to the same old behavior. She's so very selfish in that expects it to be done. I'm the daughter. I think she does care, in her own way, but I'm so tired of her woebegone mental issues. As if I don't have my own or something. She undermines me because she's a control freak. Truly. And she jumps off the wall. Like, okay, one of our bank accounts has shrunk, drastically, because of her inability to LISTEN and comprehend what I'm saying. And she saw it as 80 instead of 800 so she completely flipped her shit earlier. She's taking out her frustrations on me, which is feeding back to her because I'm returning the favor
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I have to agree with this post. Based upon the description you have give of your mother, veracity, it does indeed sound like the condition is neither the reason nor an excuse for her behaviour. Putting yourself first in such a situation is not like kicking a puppy - it's giving yourself the possibility to live.
I don't have any suggestions to what you can do, but - this can't continue. This is such a destructive situation. You need to do something before... your life have gone by without you having the possibility to live it. I wish you all the luck with this ♥
Aw, doll I'm sorry to hear about your mum. She sounds like a hell of a challenge for more than one person to deal with. I wish that I had some awesome advice to give you on how to deal with her or where to get help.
I don't think that its fair that your the one saddled with dealing with her. "her son" I'm assuming is your brother? Needs to pitch in and help out somehow be it with effort, financial, emotional or some mix of the three. As you said it seems he's following in mom's footsteps? You need to live your life too and its not kicking a kitten if you need some room physically and emotionally to breath. I think I picked up that the negativity is just circulating between you two?
Your student loans are for school and its expenses not taking care of your mom and her selfish ways. You may need to check out a Eldercare.gov (1.800.677.1116) and see if there's some way that they can help you out with your mom locally. In hopes that you get your break.
I'm keeping you in my thoughts a prayers. Sending you lots of ♥ & Huggles.
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Are there any programs out there available to help out with her needs, to give you a break? Though regardless, I think I'd be making it clear to her family that they need to be taking their share of this burden.
Simply put...you can't keep on like this...stressed, tired, angry. It's not a good thing for anyone to not be able to find even a small amount of happiness in their life. It's unhealthy.
And FTR...as my friend, you matter to me. *hugs*
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I don't have any suggestions to what you can do, but - this can't continue. This is such a destructive situation. You need to do something before... your life have gone by without you having the possibility to live it. I wish you all the luck with this ♥
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And possibly some liquid from Pierce's Swamp.
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I don't think that its fair that your the one saddled with dealing with her. "her son" I'm assuming is your brother? Needs to pitch in and help out somehow be it with effort, financial, emotional or some mix of the three. As you said it seems he's following in mom's footsteps? You need to live your life too and its not kicking a kitten if you need some room physically and emotionally to breath. I think I picked up that the negativity is just circulating between you two?
Your student loans are for school and its expenses not taking care of your mom and her selfish ways. You may need to check out a Eldercare.gov (1.800.677.1116) and see if there's some way that they can help you out with your mom locally. In hopes that you get your break.
I'm keeping you in my thoughts a prayers. Sending you lots of ♥ & Huggles.
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