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[venusrising]

Tonight I had peanut chicken for the first time w/o Matt. It didn't taste as good as I remember.

I miss him and it's nearly constant. snarkybleu says I need to wait. She compares me to Lucy holding out the football to Matt's Charlie Brown. She strongly believes that I made the right decision. Taking time for myself and doing what feels right for me. I know

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[snarkybleu]

Love is wonderful, true.

When you break up with someone, and you miss them, you remember all the wonderful things you had. The Shared Experience, the joy, the love.

You forget the reasons you broke up, and the things that prevented that Love from working. I might be with someone i love deeply and in a relationship that is working at the moment, but I have felt like this with other people. It's not the same thing, but I found myself wishing for all the things we had, but I forgot about what was lacking.

The Future is unknown (blah blah blah). Grieve if need be, be angry, be sad, be whateve, but don't let it consume you. It's ok to process it, just don't let it swallow you and the good things in your life.

and no stalking. I don't have bail money for you.

[lust_inthe_dust]

Stalk...Stalk NOW! Don't let a day of lost Love go by, don't wait, don't hesitate.

That having been said...don't tease him either...if you are as in Love as you claim, or miss him that much or blah blah - you know...I STILL demand to know why you are not together.

I know, I'm the only person with this opinion...but you know me.

Love, it's The Answer. Loneliness, self denial, hermitage (on either one of your parts)...is not.

I'm all for your plodding steps, I've told you as well to take the time you need...but, dammit...have you READ this post that you wrote?????????

[ctuck]

What about loving yourself? What about all the hurt and the pain that was laid open and bare? What about all the things that this post doesn't address?

[tarla]

Agreed.

[f_l_i_r_t]

Do something...

Life is too short to stay in a sort of perpetual, self-made purgatory.

You need to just decide you can be what you know you need to be for you first and him second. What is there to be afraid of? It either works or it doesn't, either way you have an answer, right?

Only you know if what separated you the first time is still there and will still be an issue.

Maybe just start talking, then dating etc. Take it slowly, slowly, like the tortoise. But you have to move a little to be like the tortoise, standing still or back tracking doesn't count.

Good luck....

I don't know of any of the history with this man. So, feel free to take my advice with a grain of salt.

[purrfectionist]

I agree. Act on it, but move slow. You might regret not taking the chance.

[venusrising]

You're right, I do need to know if I can be what I need for me first. And, as others have pointed out, I need to be certain that my feelings are rooted in reality and not simply a reaction to finally being on my own and dealing with the fall-out of being a Singleton.

[medancer]

Why'd this relationship go south again?

I mean no disrespect; but I am puzzled.

(and "really, that's none of your business" is a perfectly acceptable answer.)

[venusrising]

This might help and so might this.

[venusrising]

You know that you can be honest with me, right?

[phoebe_k]

Vulnerable, yes. But I don't think it's good to start any relationship (including a re-start) by prostrating yourself. If one of you has to beg just to start things again, it's a bad omen for equality and power dynamics in the future. If you want him back, go to him as an equal. Why would either of you want anything less?