Well excuse the fuck out of me

[vanillafluffy]

I was raised to understand that the "correct" response to being given a gift is "Thank you" and a smile. It doesn't matter if the gift is godawful, it doesn't matter if you're going to privately roll your eyes, regift it or throw it in a drawer. You smile and say "Thanks!" to the person who gave it to you. Period

Comments

[nwhepcat]

WTF?! What kind of fuckery is that?

Sorry you had to deal with that nonsense.

[vanillafluffy]

It was a real jaw-dropper for me, I can tell you that.

Thanks for the moral support, and I hope your scaled-down feast goes well. I've done that for holidays past and really had fun.

[ruric]

Dude next year the twit should get nothing - they're not worth the investment in a book on etiquette.

Console yourself with the thought that churlish and ungrateful people will get a karmic smackdown at some point in future and don't let it spoil your holiday. The Universe will get 'em bnack when they least expect it *G*

Personally I happen to think gifts which are hand or homemade or where resources are tight are fun. I had a pledge with most of my pals this year that gifts should be under a fiver and consumeable. Which meant lots of cookies, brownies, chutneys and very small Lush bathballs!

Have a good one *G*

[nwhepcat]

My friend calls homemade gifts "makies," and they're always a treat.

[vanillafluffy]

I *know* I'm getting cookies, since I spent the last two days helping someone bake them (and had a lot of fun in the process!).

[vanillafluffy]

The individual in question is usually not that tactless, and I'm reminding myself that they have a LOT of family stress going and probably weren't trying to rip my heart out. Doesn't help much, in light of my own situation. I know there are people who have it a lot worse than I do, but I'm feeling mediocre and blue this year. Here's hoping 2010 is better!

Happy holidays to you, too!

[louisiane_fille]

How rude! If I'd ever said something like that, my mom would have slapped me senseless. What a jerk.

[vanillafluffy]

If I'd ever said something like that, my mom would have slapped me senseless.

Mine, too. Too bad some people either didn't get the memo to begin with or it didn't sink in.

[chocolate_frapp]

wowee, what an asshole!

[vanillafluffy]

I know the holidays bring out the worst in some people, but I really didn't expect this shit!

[pwcorgigirl]

So you didn't dip into your hidden stash of Faberge eggs for this person? Jeeze. What an ill-mannered thing to say.

Unless this somebody who is a close friend who was having a real foot-in-mouth moment, I'd say no gift next year. You gave of your time and talent, both of which are priceless, and next year you shouldn't bother wasting them on that person.

[vanillafluffy]

I'm telling myself it was a foot-in-mouth moment, because they have been very helpful this year and are going through some rough times of their own...but I still feel crushed and suffering from epic!Christmas!FAIL.

[pwcorgigirl]

Sweetie, you did not fail. You've had such a great attitude this year, so please don't let this rain on your parade. *hugs*

[vanillafluffy]

Eh, I know it isn't supposed to be about the gifting...I just feel like I'm cheating by regifting---which I've done A LOT this season---and I can't find something I actually bought months ago for a specific person---I'm feeling massively insecure and I just want to stop crying.