Comments | tzar_kirov: He just doesn't get it

tzar_kirov

He just doesn't get it

Jul 27, 2006 16:44

So last night was interesting. I found out that I was dating someone where I thought we were casually getting to know each other over coffee. I also did explain my system of commitment i.e. coffee does not equal the next step in relationship commitment after acquaintance. I should’ve known that he wasn’t going to listen. So! We called it off (after ( Read more... )

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tzar_kirov July 27 2006, 15:58:52 UTC

I rekon. We're going pretty strong. I've been waiting ever since the second week of our acquaintence for you to pop the question.

I am so glad that it's not a David thing. I was wondering if my thoughts and actions were justified (because my gut instinct was that they were). Sweet.

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tzar_kirov July 27 2006, 16:00:39 UTC

Yeah, I was wondering if my thoughts and feelings were justified or not. Now I don't feel so unsure :)

Hahaha! Yeah, because a long-distance marriage would work just as well if not better than long-distance relationships...

caefus July 28 2006, 05:53:49 UTC

Holy sh*t. I'm so sorry ... that's such a really shitty position to be in. You have *got* to stick up for yourself though. If you want dude out of your bed -- get dude out of your bed. There is no need to be polite to a preditor (even as unaware of it as he was). He's got to get the hint, and if he can't, throw it in his face. What an ass!

tzar_kirov July 28 2006, 18:02:34 UTC

I'm glad you raised the preditor point.
I get similar situations like this all the time. So often do guys like me, and try to force themselves unto me. I feel so violated every single time, but because I am treated like this all the time, I concluded that this must be normal; that I should change. However, recently I have decided that the behaviour is unacceptable to me. Others may like it, but that doesn't mean I have to. From now on, I am going to do what's most confortable for me (however still maintain my gentlemanly ways).
I felt like I was being predated all the time, but because they didn't realise that they were, I was very forgiving. I used to go by motivation and not action. I have learnt to take both into account.
I'll be starting fresh soon anyway. I have a bit of boundary-setting to do before then.