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[tyrella_2008]

I have to get rid of something with bothers me very much so if you don't wanna hear my ramblings and concerns about my son you shouldn't read this.

Comments

[mamaffy]

I can understand worrying. I don't have kids, so probably not to the full extend, but I see family and friends worrying about social skills or intelligence at some point and I am sorry that you do.

First of all, he is really clever and I firmly believe that that will help him plenty in live.

Isn't it a shame that social and emotional skills are expected to be learned on the fly? It should be more of a subject in school, too. I love the idea that you interpret stories with him and discuss feelings and appropriate responses with him. The way you describe him, I can see him understanding that very well, he seems to be quite analytical.

I am thinking of a book, now, that I once read and loved. It's written by Mark Haddon who worked with autistic kids and it is written from the perspective of an autistic teenage boy. Which is WAY WAY over the top in your case, I know, but it found it fascinating. Also, it's primarily a novel not a help book. Maybe you are interested: English, GermanI think in the end some deficits are not so bad. I was

[surya74]

Your comment is lovely. :)

[tyrella_2008]

Thank you so much for your kind words. And the books seems to be very interesting, it is in my "to-buy"-list now.

[anonymous]

On the one hand, I don't see anything wrong with playing alone or in small groups since I've always preferred to play with building toys, and other "quiet" toys, but I totally understand your concern that he isn't relating to others. Sometimes I wish I was more able to relate to others and that I was even interested in interacting.

I think continuing to take him to a child psychologist/therapist who can help him learn to empathize with others (and also help you work with him) is a good idea. I think if he learns to recognize, understand and respond to emotions appropriately then that alone might make him more apt to be social. I mean, maybe the whole reason he's not very social is because he's unable to really recognize emotions?

Maybe a pet would help? Obviously, it would have to be the right kind of pet for your son AND your household -- you couldn't get just any dog or cat (or bird, ferret, hamster... and you probably wouldn't want a cat like Jaws, LOL or a really boisterous dog), but I think it's worth looking into (talk to

[tyrella_2008]

I think he can recognize emotions. When we look at pictures he can describe the feeling he sees in the image but he cannot emphasize them. Recently a bird flew against our kitchen windows and laid dead on the ground. His only reactions was to find a way that the birds in our garden noticed the window. His way to deal with the situation was logical and objective but not emotional.

I was thinking about a pet too. Maybe a cat...

Thanks for your help!

[surya74]

I'm afraid I don't know anything about the subject and can do no more than express my sympathies to you. I hope everything gets sorted out and that you won't worry too much. The only thing I can think of re Asperger is someone I met here at LJ who has it but leads a pretty normal life, as far as I can tell. If you want me to give you contact information, just let me know.

:)

[tyrella_2008]

I appreciate your words. And thanks for the offer, maybe I get back to it.

[mirylla]

Unfortunately I can't be of any help :( The only thing I can do is send you and CP lots of positive vibes ♥

Maybe joining a forum dedicated to this kind of issue would help you and give you some ideas... *hugs*

[tyrella_2008]

Thank you for your kind words. It is not that easy to find a forum which correspond to our situation. There are a lot of boards for little geniuses or Asperger kids but no boards for kids who fits just "almost" to it. But I keep looking.