DISAPPROVAL FTW

[tsumiamethyst]

I am very seriously considering changing my legal surname.

My Mom is very seriously disagreeing with my decision.

I could understand, perhaps, if I had no reasons. But I do. I have not seen my father for ten years, and I am suffering from it. I want nothing more to do with him. That surname has bad connotations for me and I want to be rid of them.

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[sincere_pain]

Oh honey, you know how I can play the devil's advocate for almost any angle? Well, even I can't fit any sort of logic to what your mother is doing here

[tsumiamethyst]

Not even remotely close. I think the last time she saw him was even longer ago than I did. Her whole marriage argument didn't go down well, either. I just raised an eyebrow and was like, 'I'm not even going to begin discussing how bad that sounds.' I guess that didn't help her mood, but I'm beginning to realise why we seemed so much closer when we didn't live together. I think we're very different people. That and Mom worried about what others think - She probably thinks people will think badly of me, or even her if I go through with this. But how should they? If anything, they think badly of me with my name how it is

[tsumiamethyst]

Okay update on the name-change!

I think my Mom is warming up to the idea now and I'm researching the processes involved after I have it legally changed, like who has to be informed and how - Not everyone finds a photocopy of a legal document to be enough, it seems ¬_¬ Oh and by the way did the deed poll people mention that the additional legal copies you send off to these people cost an additional £13 for the service plus £1 for every copy? Sheesh. Still, overall it's a very cheap thing, and it's a small price to pay for something so important to me.

I am pretty sure in my decision, but I am going to wait a week or so just to make sure this is the right thing for me. I'm very confident that it is and that it will make me happy, but it's a big scary grown-up decision and I want to make sure it's right **Nods**