It sucks to be the grownup, doesn't it? Blessings upon you for deciding that a child's wellbeing takes precedence over an adult's wants. That happens too seldom.
I'm coming in right in the middle, so I'm guessing that Jeff's kids are living with his sister right now. If they're under the sister's roof, then I guess she does have the authority to give permission for a sleepover. But it would have been polite, y'know, to have consulted with their father before giving that permission. If she had, this particular kerfuffle would not have occurred. The sister does not come out of this looking like a sensible person.
But the fact that she obviously dislikes you shows me that she's not a sensible person. What's not to like?
If I'm right and the kids are living with Jeff's sister, that makes it especially tough on him. It's difficult to declare your independence from someone when you're beholden to that person.
Kids were staying with the sister for the summer. They returned yesterday. The kids were staying there so his mother, who is the caregiver when he is at work, had a break out of state...also arranged by the rest of the family and grudgingly her.
So essentially she was giving permission for something that would occur after the kids were back home.
Logic does not seem to be in great quantities in this mess which really screws with my head. Seriously...it's worse than MP Search for the Holy Grail where Sir Bedevere states if "she ways the same as a duck then she is made of wood and wood floats on water so logically she's a witch."
No...no logic has been harmed in the making of this farce.
And it's similar to things that were happening before they left for the summer.
*hugs* I hate making the tough decisions. Sorry you are being forced into stepping back. I can see how this is for the kids, and gives Jeff's family a reason to face reality.
Even if the kids are visiting/staying with the aunt, she should have run the sleep over by Jeff. Back to school and meeting the new teachers should take precidence over what the relatives want.
I'm home part of this week if you need to chat or have doggie therapy.
Perhaps this will be the catalyst Jeff needs to cut the apron strings. From what you'd stated, this needs to be done--if not for himself, for his children.
Thank you all for the support. It is because of friends like you and the many others I have that help remind me why I don't have to impress these people
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sounds like a logical but painful course of action on your part.
Now your boy has a charcter-building opportunity, which he may choose to exercise or not. What he chooses to do now will tell you a lot about him, and the strength of your relationship.
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I'm coming in right in the middle, so I'm guessing that Jeff's kids are living with his sister right now. If they're under the sister's roof, then I guess she does have the authority to give permission for a sleepover. But it would have been polite, y'know, to have consulted with their father before giving that permission. If she had, this particular kerfuffle would not have occurred. The sister does not come out of this looking like a sensible person.
But the fact that she obviously dislikes you shows me that she's not a sensible person. What's not to like?
If I'm right and the kids are living with Jeff's sister, that makes it especially tough on him. It's difficult to declare your independence from someone when you're beholden to that person.
Good luck, and I hope the good guys win.
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So essentially she was giving permission for something that would occur after the kids were back home.
Logic does not seem to be in great quantities in this mess which really screws with my head. Seriously...it's worse than MP Search for the Holy Grail where Sir Bedevere states if "she ways the same as a duck then she is made of wood and wood floats on water so logically she's a witch."
No...no logic has been harmed in the making of this farce.
And it's similar to things that were happening before they left for the summer.
Pathetic.
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Even if the kids are visiting/staying with the aunt, she should have run the sleep over by Jeff. Back to school and meeting the new teachers should take precidence over what the relatives want.
I'm home part of this week if you need to chat or have doggie therapy.
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Now your boy has a charcter-building opportunity, which he may choose to exercise or not. What he chooses to do now will tell you a lot about him, and the strength of your relationship.
good thoughts aimed at you.
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