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Reply to "Side trip masturbation"

May 19, 2008 02:43

*sigh* LiveJournal annoys me in some ways. Needs a better commenting vs post mechanism... because sometimes comments require enough length that they might as well be warranted as blog posts themselves. Anyways, this post reflects my reply to sharon_masters' post " Side trip masturbation". You might want to read it before trying to digest the rest of this...

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sharon_masters May 19 2008, 20:52:38 UTC

"Where masturbation is concerned, I treat it mostly as a solitary pleasure. When I consider why, I think there are two key factors for me. First, I tend to be very visual and mental about climax. I don't need to be watching porn to do it, but can easily create full scenes in my head and swim through them... even for hours, if I'm feeling really indulgent. But these kinds of scenarios are difficult to share with a partner and have a shared experience."
Oh my, this is another whole post (we could waste our MONTH just doing this)... in the long distant times, i could lie there in the dark, and work through whole scenario's that dealt with BDSM and M/s and i didn't even KNOW it (FUUUCKKKK!) but they were there, and the fantasies were so vivid and DETAILED that i never did share them with anyone....
they have faded into the distant past of my life, but every now and then one of them pops up for a moment to remind me of the brain attic i have.

sharon_masters May 19 2008, 20:55:10 UTC

" Which leads me to the second factor, which is sexual satisfaction. If I'm getting enough of the right kind of fulfillment, then I actually tend not to masturbate all that much. And if I'm involving a partner in manual genital stimulation, then I don't really consider it masturbation. Though there have been times when, if I wasn't sufficiently satisfied in a sexual situation I will masturbate soon after on my own."
Yeah-- i don't think of it as mutual masterbation-- no such thing.... it's making love, but not necessarily INSIDE each other.Like fellatio, or anal penetration with anything other than a cock.... it's still there.
As to adding a secondary climax to the original program, hell, sometimes, i think that is a HUGE compliment! It means to me, that i have aroused my partner so much that once was not enough!

sharon_masters May 19 2008, 20:57:28 UTC

"So, for me, masturbating with an audience would still *feel* like a solitary event."
Yes, i need that too--- and i can't do it for MYSELF because i am not turned on by having others watch me (too self conscious), BUT, to know that it turned my PARTNER on to have me embarrassed enough yet forced to get to that bubble... well, that is one of those many headed hydras of emotional involvement that we must go into at a later date.

sharon_masters May 19 2008, 21:08:44 UTC

"In general, I tend to limit the detail of any act or situation to what I feel is necessary to get a point or idea across. Though I am always open to delve further into the details if the discussion goes there. "Being enveloped and dominated by him during sex really got me hot" might be enough for the basic idea, but "I got so hot when our legs were entwined, he gripped me from behind by my nipples and chewed on my neck while thrusting his fat cock into me" gives a more complete picture of the things I desired and needed but might be considered TMI for some. :D "

Ahhh... but that also gives the rest of us this mental picture that speaks loudly not only of your own inner self, but of our own needs as well, what turns us on, what we yearn for, or what we want to avoid (depending on the person).
That level however, sometimes goes over into infringing on what our PARTNERS might feel is too ebarrassingly specific.