Comments | trollup: It's a (Bubble) Wrap

trollup

It's a (Bubble) Wrap

Aug 19, 2008 02:03

After the odd sort of IM conversation I had with Mike -- more like email than IM since we weren't online at the same times -- regarding when to set aside time to talk, I was a little surprised when he started messaging me during work hours. I thought we'd agreed that this would be too much to visit until after work. Anyway, we worked out that we ( Read more... )

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sharon_masters August 19 2008, 17:26:49 UTC

he started messaging me during work hours. i have noticed that this boy doesn't LISTEN to anyone but himself.

conversations with friends afterward that helped me so much --reflect back to me and be there to call bullshit if necessary. i am glad we didn't sound too preachy- the 2 of us were rather adamant about where we felt the lines were.

And then I realized I *needed* to have this conversation before talking to Mike. THAT is good. Rivers flow where they need to and seek their own level.

Mike shared that he had time to catch up with his friends and they seemed OK with how things went down. Let me be the FIRST to make clear that i find the whole situation appalling-- and i used to run with *serious* alcoholics, and even THEY would not have pulled a stunt like this with a new date.

He also added that he felt some self-doubt when he read the replies to my posts -- though in reading back, I don't see that anyone said anything about /him/ but rather offered their sympathies for my dealing with the /situation/, but OK -- but that he ( ... )

sharon_masters August 19 2008, 17:27:09 UTC

I caught this most strongly when he said, "I know, id like to try and start with a clean slate. But I dont feel that i should have to fight for it. I owned up to my mistakes. Which were bad ones yes.. (ponders) But as you pointed out, you seem to want to drop it which im fine with, Ive also learned it's not worth trying to save something that cannot be saved."THAT is classic abuser statement looking for enabling and disavowing his actions by claiming saying 'sorry dude ( ... )

innerb August 21 2008, 04:29:53 UTC

I second Shadow's comments.

"I dont feel that i should have to fight for it."

Selfish, entitled, and in dire need of a wake up call. That comment alone reinforces the need to end this.

I don't like people who cause my friends pain (except when they want them to, of course). I REALLY don't like people who think it's ok when they do it, and what's the big deal?

There's no excuse for that type of behavior.