Hi! and a kind of panicked mtf question [intimate]

[aiskee]

As you might find out from my profile, I'm technically MtF but don't identify as trans. I'm past transitioning (which was surprisingly fast for me) but I'm still pre-op because I'm saving money for a good surgeon. I identify as femme, but not as a woman (or a man). I suppose "girl" is the closest think you might call me without it feeling wrong.

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[emiwenis]

i have a paragard so i'd second this. it has no hormones so shouldn't interfere and it's kept me safe with constant unprotected sex with my partner for over a year.
the only reason it might be not ideal is it can make cramps/bleeding worse, for a little while after insertion but then that calms down usually, and it does require a couple pelvic exam visits to the gyno. Find out what your partner is comfortable with, if he is with the paragard i'd recommend it.

Also, maybe you can get access to a lab microscope and look at a sample on a slide? do you know any graduate students in biology? lol
you could also visit a sperm bank and have them test your sperm count, perhaps.

[aiskee]

The paragard would be the way to go if it just didn't require him to go to the gyno. That'd just make him really depressed..

One of my exes had an IUD and I remember I could feel it during intercourse and that it sometimes was painful (to me, not her). It was properly inserted and all.

I do have a bio student friend I might ask! Thanks for the tip ;)

[ellyrouge]

"Also, maybe you can get access to a lab microscope and look at a sample on a slide? do you know any graduate students in biology? lol
you could also visit a sperm bank and have them test your sperm count, perhaps."

I think that for a sperm count you can simply ask a doctor to prescribe an analysis or something like that, isn't it?

[sfjennie]

hi,
you might want to up your spiro intake(and/or asking your dr if it's a good idea for you.
I am 41yo and have been on hrt just shy of 3 years and am presently taking 4oomg spiro every day(200mg am, 200mg pm).
i am certainly not suggesting that you take as much spiro as i take, but if you increase to 150-200mg per day it will probably stop your spontanious erections and reduce fluid.
(btw, with 400mg spiro daily i am still able to have erections when i am turned on enough, which lots of making out and breast play are usually the best way to get me up)
*huggs*
jennie

[aiskee]

Isn't 400mg of spiro like..dangerous? My endo said she rarely prescribes more than 200mg daily, usually giving people 100mgs.

I might try increasing my spiro to 150 and see what happens. I'm just afraid to lose my sexual function while at the same time I'm scared of the fluids. I have very little body hair and facial hair is scarce+light in colour and grows slowly so I haven't felt like I've needed to up my antiandros for a while.

[ericaequites]

Spermacidal jelly or sponges are better than the foam, and don't require doctor visits. Both are OTC in drugstores.

[nodesignation]

I'm in about the same boat, just recently having ejaculate again after shifting my hormones. Although, I'm post-orchi so I'm certain there's no sperm involved. The fluid I produce is similar to your description, clear, less watery, and more like commercial lube in consistency. If the fluid is clear, then I would guess it doesn't contain sperm -- but that's the uninformed guess of a random person on the internet, so take it with a grain of salt.

You could of course ask your doctor, have a sample looked at, etc. Folks here have mentioned a bunch of different contraceptive devices, hopefully one will work for you. But I'll mention that spermacide is a skin irritant, and can cause micro abrasions which increase the risk of transmitting STIs. It sounds like you're not considering STIs which hopefully means you are in a position where they aren't a worry. But that increased risk is something to be aware of.

[aiskee]

I actually looked it up with a friend of mine and she said she'd never stopped getting ejaculate but it was tested clear even though she had been off hormones for a month (when it wasn't clear before starting HRT and she's been on for a shorter while than me). So I suppose it's normal to have ejaculate and having it doesn't mean you've suddenly gotten fertile as long as you're still on E :)

No, STI/D's aren't a concern here, thankfully.

Care to share what the shift you did was? I dropped progesterone (MPA) a month or so ago so I figured it might contribute..

[nodesignation]

My shift was when I started taking a low dose of testosterone about a month and a half ago. I hadn't ejaculated in 2 or more years, then with T I was doing so within a week.