Love and lust-a draft to think about.

[tragnon]

I thought I had an old entry relating to that, but I don’t see it. Perhaps it existed in my mind, or maybe that I tried to write it once before, and failed to put it into words. I’m writing this, as a poly person, trying to help a monogamous person get a handle on her feelings.  (no, I am not personally involved in the situation, so I have no point

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[keadaru]

You did do an old post on the subject. Look harder through your archives. I'm sure it's there.

[tragnon]

ok, then I am not losing my mind...

[keadaru]

Not any more than you lost it previously.

[tragnon]

pfft :P

[keadaru]

I agree with your definitions of Love and Lust. I also agree that the human species has a grey area that does create some dents in your definition of love (to a point).

I do say you can Love some of your friends. It is a different level or form if you will of love. I have a best friend who I love as a sister. I do love her but not in the context that we are discussing here.

Humans are strange creatures and sometimes it is harder to analyze us than to just go with the flow and try to find happiness.

[onyxhealer]

There are people in my life who do not neatly fit into the definitions of friend vs. lover. I have been in relationships with people I cared about where there was a sexual side of things, but both of us knew we were not "in love" with each other, we were just essentially doing a whole LOT of flirting.

The classical definitions can be helpful up to a point, but there is a point beyond which they cease to be helpful.