Comments | tinkcph: I'll thank you not to handle me with kid gloves

tinkcph

I'll thank you not to handle me with kid gloves

Jun 05, 2016 14:13

Yesterday was Sven's dad's 80th birthday party. It was an excellent bash, although the weather was entirely too hot to be anywhere in fancy clothes, and sitting inside to eat was a bit of an ordeal. The long table cloth felt like a duvet over our legs, and although windows and doors were open, there was hardly a breeze. Still, a good time was had ( Read more... )

family: in-laws

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gammameta June 9 2016, 02:44:10 UTC

Ugh. She took the wrong lesson from your offense ( ... )

tinkcph June 9 2016, 18:00:44 UTC

I'm not even really mad at my SIL. She told me with the best of intentions. She missed the point toward the end, that's fine, I'll talk her through it some other day. I'm not mad at Sven's sister either.

What I'm pissed about is the discourse happening behind my back. The "don't tell Tink, because she has no babies of her own-"thing. Like I'm some tragic old maid who can't possibly understand anyone's situation but my own.

Sven's sister's abortion has nothing to do with me. I'm annoyed that they're inferring that it somehow does, because she's "blessed" and I'm "not."

But yes. Assumptions. Communication in the face of assumptions. Ugh. I wish people would actually listen, instead of being so busy pitying me.

wolvster June 9 2016, 14:45:10 UTC

I somewhat understand the need to be careful about this subject. It can be a delicate one. However, if you told her not to treat you like a delicate flower and she completely missed the point... Yeah that's just annoying.

tinkcph June 9 2016, 17:50:57 UTC

It's one of those no-win situations where, no matter where you stand in your own process, it's still somehow up to *you* to make sure everyone is ok with *your business ( ... )