Sorry, can't help you with this one. I can pretty much say I can't trust anyone - not with the secret inner me. That blind trust in humanity was destroyed many years ago, and no one ever took the time to help it re-grow. And now I doubt it ever will.
But that doesn't mean yours can't, and I wish you luck finding the path. If you do, maybe you can share the secret with me.
I don't trust many people either, and the few that I do trust, are only trusted to certain degrees. Whatever trust they've got from me, they earned by proving themselves worthy over and over and over and over again. If they fuck up, they either get the boot from my life or, for more minor offenses, they take a huge step back in the trust department.
But then, I've got Scorpio influences in key locations, and Scorpio doesn't trust anyone for anything. ;-)
Take that back a year and a half.. When we had that argument.. you didn't know what I was feeling because you wouldn't accept it.. you filled in the blanks on your own. That led to misunderstanding and our eventual argument, with its associated consequences.
Of course, I didn't see it at the time either, and now, after thinking about it, my opinion of what happened has changed.
There is no one with whom I have this generalized sort of all-encompassing trust. I have to spell out what I expect from someone very specifically, and they have to spell out very specifically that they'll do that specific thing. Even then they might not do it. But it doesn't mean I can trust them to do something else which we never talked about. It sounds to me like you've asked someone something vague and general as in "can I always trust you?" which is so vague that it's meaningless. You've got to talk. Communicate with words, not hugs.
I don't think that having a complete and total trust in ALL people is possible. Of course, complete trust in anyone takes time, as it should. Perhaps you should concentrate on how you DO trust rather than how you don't. Maybe then you could open up more.
A part of intimacy is the trust that should go along with it. You will always meet people who would abuse that trust, and you will always run into circumstances where misunderstandings occur. But there will also be those people who show you by word and deed that they are worthy of your trust, as you are theirs.
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But that doesn't mean yours can't, and I wish you luck finding the path. If you do, maybe you can share the secret with me.
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But then, I've got Scorpio influences in key locations, and Scorpio doesn't trust anyone for anything. ;-)
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Take that back a year and a half.. When we had that argument.. you didn't know what I was feeling because you wouldn't accept it.. you filled in the blanks on your own. That led to misunderstanding and our eventual argument, with its associated consequences.
Of course, I didn't see it at the time either, and now, after thinking about it, my opinion of what happened has changed.
So.. Food Lion... Rawr.
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A part of intimacy is the trust that should go along with it. You will always meet people who would abuse that trust, and you will always run into circumstances where misunderstandings occur. But there will also be those people who show you by word and deed that they are worthy of your trust, as you are theirs.
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