In defence of some (DIY) pornography

[themusicgod1]

The following is rated X for "Fucking Explicit as Jeff gets. May not be suitable for small children and people with the mind of small children. Viewer discretion is advised."

Comments

[meirionwen]

Some of this is bullshit...and some of it is not. But where is the dividing line?

Wolfe is a bit extreme, but she did raise a few good points. And you can't disregard the good just because some of what she said was clearly wrong (it's called critical reading, and by this stage of your university life you should be well-practiced; if not you wasted your money.).

She argued that the easy access to a lot of demeaning sexual imagery desensitized men to the allure of real flesh and blood women and that the pervasiveness of porn diminishes libido. A lot of things can diminish libido - stress, bad diet, poor exercise, chemical imbalance. Wolfe merely adds an excess of porn to the list.

Importantly, the piece she wrote is an opinion piece wherein she states, of all things, her opinion. So perhaps she feels, or has friends who feel devalued by porn, who find the idea of only their husbands being able to see certain of their body parts, who look at penthouse models and feel lacking in attractiveness

She is free to her opinion

[themusicgod1]

If she didn't have her opinion then many women on the worldwide web would not have found 'the reason' whithin it why they weren't 'getting any.' It's when her opinion is treated like fact that I step in to try my best to debunk

[natowelch]

I don't have any disagreements with Wolfe's assessments of what the realities are. In many ways, I'm exemplary of the state of sexuality that she describes

I can't add much to that

[themusicgod1]

[clap clap clap]

Realistically though, you+alli are probably one of the longest-lasting couples I know, and closest in similarity to what I find ideal, and if there's a way to have a 'modern' relationship that I'm aware of you've found it, so a lot of what you say on the matter is taken to heart.

[thesirannon]

I haven't re-read Wolfe's article, so this impressions are from memory

[meirionwen]

Like I said - she makes good and bad points. I didn't like her article, but it does raise possible explanations for a phenomenon I can't understand. But I think some of Jeff's ideas on sex are more medieval than those Wolfe seems to promote.